Keep them wondering at each step. Don’t blab about changes that will happen in the relationship. It’s better to do it with action than continuing to talk. That way, your ex will know that you mean business. Your ex wants to know how you want to plan for the future in regard to your relationship with him or her. They want to know how they play a part of that. Of course, don’t tell everything at once. It’s important to have your mindset focused on presenting a challenge that will keep your ex in suspense.