Remaking The Commitment If it’s full speed ahead for you and your ex, both parties need to check themselves. There are things that should have been resolved prior to you guys getting back together. Here are some things that you need to do before you remake that commitment again: If your relationship was wavering, you and your ex make sure that this time around the outcome will be different. Both of you have to make changes in order for the relationship to work and grow. You and your ex have learned what to do and what not to do from your previous relationship. The mistakes that were made back then are history. You have realized that you can’t do the same things again. Any problems that both of you had with each other have been resolved. Those issues will not or should not come up again. It’s important to hash out the past before moving on to the future. Both parties must be willing to give and take. It can’t be one person always giving and the other one always taking. There has to be a balance. Also, there will be times when you have to compromise, even though you may not want to. Both parties will need to agree to disagree. It’s obvious that you’re not going to agree on everything, but you can agree to disagree. Doing that will give both of you a peace of mind. You and your ex both know what you want out of the relationship. You have sat and talked with each other extensively. You know each other’s habits, what makes you guys alike and what makes you different. You don’t have to be around each other all of the time. Even in a relationship, you still need space. If you don’t one of you may start feeling needy. Or one of you may start feeling cramped. You love your ex more so because of who he is and not just what he has. There are too many people who get in a relationship because of the material aspect. When all of the material stuff is gone or your ex suffers a financial loss, will you stay or go? Move on from past mistakes. Both of you are looking for a fresh start, so what better way to do it than to move forward? Looking back in the p ast just keeps you behind. You can’t move forward if you’re always dwelling on what happened before, especially if it was negative.