72 Brahmcharya
If sex were indeed poison , then Lord Mahavir would never have become fully enlightened tirthankara . He too had a daughter . Therefore , fearlessness in sex is poison . If you feel , ‘ Nothing will hurt me in sex ’, then that is poison .
I have used the word fear so that one would have fear in sex . Involvement is sexuality should be the last resort . So , what I am saying is have fear in sex . Even the Lord himself was fearful in sex , as were all the mighty Gnanis . Who then are you not to be fearful of sex ? If there is a lot of delicious food , you can enjoy it but have fear and moderation in enjoying it because you will suffer if you eat too much . Therefore , have some fear .
Questioner : After becoming the pure Soul , shuddhatma , should I have sexual interactions with my wife and if so , with what intention ? How can I deal with equanimity here ?
Dadashri : If you have a wife , then you both have to reach an acceptable solution for both in sexual matters . Your sexual dealing should be such that it is acceptable by both of you . Stop any interaction , which is acceptable to one and not to other . You should not hurt your wife in any manner .
I am telling you that this medicine of sex is a sweet medicine . Just as you take any medicine in the right dose , take this medicine of sex in right dose . When does married life excel ? It does so when you take the medicine only when both of you have a fever . Does any one take medicine without a fever ? If one takes medicine without a fever , the married life would not attain harmony . Therefore it should be taken only if both have a sexual fever . You do not take medicine everyday just because it is sweet .
All these highly evolved souls , such as Rama-Sita , had control over their passions . They had sexual control . Is abrahmacharya a divine quality ? No , it is a bestial quality .