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him. It is nothing but garbage inside. The only thing that is
valuable inside is the Soul.
It is very dangerous if you remember a file in her absence.
If the file is not present you do not remember her, but then as
soon as that file comes and if it affects you, then it is secondary
danger. You should not let this affect you. It is important to be
independent. At that time you lose your reins and then you
would not have any control, would you?
It is very dangerous if you already have a file. You must
remain stern towards that file. If that file comes in front of you,
you should show anger in your eyes, then that file will be fearful
of you.
Questioner : If we have a file and we do not have any
feeling of scorn towards her, then should we deliberately create
scorn towards her?
Dadashri : Yes, why can’t you create scorn and hatred?
Would you not hate the person who causes so much harm to
you in your life long goal of brahmacharya? Therefore, there is
still weakness within you. Your intentions are still
unclear.Therefore deception in intent still remains within you as
a weakness.
Questioner : If too much familiarity has occurred with
her then, how can it be undone? Should I intentionally be hateful
towards her and despise her?
Dadashri : Lots of pratikramans need to be done by
saying, ‘ Not mine, not mine, not mine’ Then, when you meet
her in person, you can let her have it, ‘Why are you fluttering
around me like a useless animal?’ Then she will not show her
face again.
Questioner : What should we do if we realize that the