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calling her ‘Hiraba’ (‘ba’ means mother). After that we haven’t
had any difficulties. And whatever difficulties and clashes we
had before, were due to sex. But as long as there is the after
effect of the ‘bite’ of sex, clashes will remain. Even after cessation
of overt sexual interaction, the after effects of the prior sexual
interaction remain for some time and then end. So do the clash.
I am telling you this from personal experience.
Look at the wonder of this science! All the clashes, not
only with the wife, but with the whole world stop. This science
is such, and you are free when all clashes end.
When an intense dislike for sex arises, only then would
sex stops. Otherwise, how else can it be stopped?
[7] Sex is Beastliness
People of my time were very good about one thing. They
did not harbor much sexual thoughts. They did not have sexual
intentions towards women. There were may be five to seven
percent of such people who were sexually hungry. They would
seek widows who had no one else living at home. In my youth
every girl was addressed as sister, even if she was not related.
This was the common practice. Until the age of ten to eleven
there was such innocence in sexual matters that I used to run
around without any shorts.
No thoughts about sex would arise, so there was not a
problem. That is why there were no hassles. There was no
awareness of sex.
Questioner : Was this because of some kind of a
community pressure?
Dadashri : No, not due to any community pressure. It
is the upbringing, the values instilled by the parents. A three-
year-old child would not know that its parents have this kind of
a relationship. This is how good their secrecy was. And if need