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are naive. So the men have to keep sexual desire under control
for two to four months. She will then get tired and she would
not be able to control the man.
When will a woman respect you and be deferential to
you? If you were very sensitive about sex, easily aroused by
sexuality, then she would control you. If you are sexual but not
sensitive, not easily aroused, then she will develop respect for
you. If she invites you for sex and you say not now, after two
to three days, then she stays under your command. Otherwise
you will be under her control. I understood this at the age of
fifteen. Some people beg for sex. You fool, do you have to beg
for sex? What would then happen to you if you do? What will
the woman do? She will abuse you. She will boss you around,
‘Hold this child, and go take care of him’. Our mahatmas have
sex but they do not have the craving for it.
One woman makes her husband prostrate to her four
times, before she will allow him to touch her once. You fool,
why don’t you go jump in the ocean instead, what is wrong in
doing that? Take samadhi, final peace, in the sea, at least the
sea is straightforward; at least there is no hassle there. What
kind of nonsense is this of prostrating for sex?
Questioner : Before, I used to think that all these clashes
and arguments in the home were due to matters and work of
the household. But disputes occur even when I try to help her
around the house.
Dadashri : Those disputes and clashes will continue. As
long as there is sexual interaction, clashes will continue. This is
the root of all clashes. The person who has conquered sex, has
such an aura about him that no one will bother him, no one can
conquer him.
When sexual interaction with Hiraba stopped, I started