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Brahmcharya
These men start suspecting their wives if they come home
a little late. Suspicions are not worth having. Nothing is going
to happen outside of the karmic accounts. Try and make her
understand when she comes home but do not be suspicious of
her. Suspicions breed suspicion and invite disaster. Yes, you
should warn her, but not suspect her. A suspicious person misses
the opportunity to be free.
Therefore, if you want to be free and attain liberation you
should not be suspicious. If you see your wife in another man’s
arms, does that mean you have to kill yourself?
Questioner : No, why should I do that?
Dadashri : Then what will you do?
Questioner : First display some dramatic anger and then
I would try and make her understand. After that, whatever
happens is ‘vyavasthit’.
Dadashri : Yes, that is correct.
[6] Zero Sex : Zero Clashes
Where do quarrels occur in this world? Only where there
is infatuation and attraction. For how long the quarrels exist? As
long as sexual interaction exists, quarrels exist. Then you start
doing ‘mine-yours’, ‘Pick up your bag from here. Why have
your kept saris in my bag?” etc. These quarrels exist as long as
you are united in sex. And once you have become free from
sex, there is no problem even if the things are kept in your bag.
These quarrels would not take place then, would the