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That young man my husband now of 24 years is now a father to our 5 children. On the 23rd March, 2015, we celebrate 24 years. I remember as we went through the gruelling time of consistent no's from mum, I was weeping one evening as I told him, "Why don't WE JUST END THE RELATIONSHIP". We do not have to get married. If I did not get approval and blessing from my mum ( dad had passed on), I would not want to marry. I felt, she represented my dad’s approval and that would haunt me throughout our relationship. But that is history now! Today, we joke our children want to hear the stories of how we met, how mum did not attend my wedding (they shed a few tears and give me some hugs , but we do let our children understand they have their own lives and destinies and God will weave out a tapestry of beauty through the deepest pain. Marriage is a covenant, NOT A CONTRACT. Yes we signed the papers, but I never remember that as our binding agreement. I am committed to fulfilling the reason why we made the covenant to raise godly children, to fulfil my purpose with him and vice-versa. At this stage, I have a daughter about to enter marriage and I am committed to seeing our legacy lived out through her own family. As Co-Founder of a thriving Love & Marriage School, I can say, how you live out what you learn is up to you. But you have to have relevant knowledge, positive re-enforcements, empowering experiences to say the least. You can build on these. You have the sole duty to up-learn what you can to succeed in marriage. We have had our own share of the hard lessons through and we are aware ( as we do sometimes forget) some of these lessons ourselves when under severe pressure. But we do have a strong foundation of faith, focus and vision. The Love and Marriage School has a vision to establish strong and healthy families in the nations of he world. Your partnership is highly crucial. Join us at the forthcoming Love & Marriage School in London or if you so wish for a Love & Marriage School Outing in your city, community or church email us at info@loveandmarriageschool. Enomfon Ntefon is a Marketplace Pastor, an Entrepreneur, Leadership & Personal Development Trainer and Marriage Mentor. She is a Co-Director of Winning Relationships, Co-Founder of Love & Marriage School and is the Editor- in-Chief of Bounce Back In Style Mag