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Protocols To Ending A Relationship When Needed
By Adewale Adefuye

We are designed to interact and relate with others. Since sin made its entrance into the world, it
is inevitable that relationships go wrong. Relationships breakdown. Friendships collapse. Bonds
break. Marriages fail. But one should move on.

I have never had to leave a love relationship as a
Believer. I got saved at 22 years and the only relationship I got into was clearly led of the Lord at
both ends and resulted in marriage and have been
happily married ever since. A few times I have had
to leave a job and several times our employees
have disengaged in pleasant and not so pleasant
ways.
However, I have been at both the receiving and
giving ends of leaving a Church. Twice, I dealt with
the hard and painful decision to leave a Church.
Leaving the first Church felt like leaving a marriage. How do you leave a Church you joined a few
weeks after God saved you? In the almost ten
years of membership, you were baptized in water,
built great friendships, met, and married your jewel of inestimable value; taught you the Bible, developed your appetite for the scriptures and the
things of God; afforded you wonderful opportunities to grow and travel on missions; provided
platforms to hone your teaching gifts? It hurt because our sojourn with the Church had been a
pleasant one, we had grown in faith, and we
would miss the people. But, again, there are legitimate reasons to leave. Our theology had changed.
No longer were we on the same page doctrinally
with the Church. It was not a matter of right and )