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Things To Consider When The Option Arises
 Male ego can be too fragile for some women to handle. So you may need to get some
coaching to support your resolve to do this.
 On a scale of 1-10 with one as the lowest and 10 as the highest, at what level is your
spouse’s self-esteem? If you feel it is
shaky or threatened already, it is not
a very good idea to consider as yet.
You need to find another alternative.
 If the wife earns or makes more money than the man there will be need for
a lot of caution as per the kind of
jokes that she bring up. Nothing derogatory and nothing suggestive.
 If the wife has controlling tendencies
but the man has been complaining about how he feels about this, there will have to be
need to sort that out with a marriage coach or mentor so that they can be helped and
will also be accountable so that there will be a long-term success.
If a man feels insecure because how the wife treats him before and during the process of taking
up the task, he will likely change his mind. Most men I know, would rather be washed down
by their boss in the office than be stuck with looking after a baby only for the wife to make
him feel like trash.
Here is what Richard Holt, a onetime stay-at-home-dad, had to say “As for me, my wife and I
both have to work to be able to afford the eye-watering costs of being alive. That year left me
with more mortgage to pay off and it meant that I had to work harder when I went back to
work. But I never regret doing it, as the time I got to spend with my daughter is something that
you can’t put a price on.” And he continued, “I would urge everyone to give it a go. But most
of you won’t, as you are not man enough.”
Well, what can I say as an ex-stay-at-home-dad?
It is another level of your last opportunity to get matured. I didn’t
always love the idea because it was foreign to me. But today, I am
grateful for the way God used this to make me a better person to my
world. It all began with serving my family, not as a stay-at-homedad but as a ready dad who maximised the opportunities to stay with
his children when mum needed to be at work .
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