tension in the marriage or friendship. You may feel you are
“losing” someone, and the new version is someone you don’t
really know. It may raise your own insecurities, or you may fear
they will outgrow their relationship with you, due to their lifestyle
changes.
Keep talking about how this affects both of you, and attend
support groups. Don’t hesitate to seek counselling.
Keep a positive attitude; offer encouragement, praise and
support.
• Remember, the person you care about is going through major
lifestyle changes, which can be very stressful and emotional.
Supporting them during their successes will be easy, but it is just
as important to be there when they are struggling. Praise their
success, and support them when they have setbacks, without
being judgemental or critical.
Having a family member or friend who has had weight loss surgery
can be challenging for you too. It can mean changing your lifestyle
as well, which can bring new stresses.
Remember to take care of yourself, and don’t be afraid to ask for
help if you have problems coping with these changes.
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