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R E L AT I O N S H I P S 6 relationship myths that can damage your marriage H ow do you view marriage? If you picture it to be full of rainbows and butterflies, think again. Expecting your marriage to be a certain way is probably the biggest problem married couples face these days. When expectations fail to manifest, couples are often left unhappy and frustrated. These unrealistic expectations set in our minds are due to media portrayal of relationships.Here are six relationship myths experts say you should stop believing in so you can start enjoying a real relationship: 1. Marriage changes people Most people believe that once you get married, your significant other will change for the better. This is a misconception and you’re only fooling yourself by thinking this way.HuffPost quoted social worker and co-author of the book How Not to Marry the Wrong Guy: Is He “The One” Or Should You Run?, Jennifer Gauvain, as saying. “If you hate the way he handles his meddling mother or you can’t stand how hot tempered she gets, that’s still going to drive you up the wall once you say “I do.” Face the facts: Marriage isn’t going to miraculously change who your partner is.”Most people don’t change unless they really want to, so usually what you see is what you get. If you know that the quirks you hate aren’t going to go away after marriage, you would at least go into it well prepared. 2. Marriage is the next logical step because [