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Do Men Need HELP Too? A Realistic View Into the Lives of Men Today. By Brenda E McLean (cont.)

then again, I am not GOD, so please tell me if I am wrong in what I am seeing with our men... I see the pressures on men becoming ever more prevalent, while at the same time their salaries and the job opportunities are declining all across America. Is this an accurate assessment here?

Further, I see men that are in need of some kind of general support system (mental, emotional or otherwise). Men may look like the "Rock of Gibrathar," meaning they have unwavering strength that cannot be overcome or does not fail; but the truth of the case in the whole scheme of things. Think about what I am saying here... Look at the face of our nations president... Doesn't he look strong, unmovable and unshaken by any event in history? But if you take a closer look at the lines around his eyes the aging or sagging and the graying of his hair. These are unmistakable signs of distress in the best of us... Now his hair may look young, vigorous and black today, but make no mistake about it... It was gray on yesterday and will be even grayer on tomorrow... There is nothing he can do about it "Just for Men" is a great cover-up, but it doesn't dare touch on the real issues as to what may be making men go Gray! So let's not play games here, this is serious business... Men are at their most trying times ever and there is absolutely no way out!!! But if you choose to look at this like a game of chance, let's in fact look at it as a game of 'poker' where you can bluff your way out or strategically work your way out. Now, since I don't believe too much in 'chance', I believe you have to deal with the hand you have been dealt the very best you can. So the reality and the lesson learned for this scenario is that to win at the game you are playing in your life, you had better compile a winning team... Meaning you had better align yourself with strong alliances in your own camp (home, work or team).

Remove the weak links in your camp (family, friend or foe) and align yourself with people who will support your cause and help you to reach your goals... I am afraid that this is critically important to any man's success, as mentioned in most cases through history that the enemy or the destroyer usually comes from within ones on camp (family, companion, employment or team). So, with that being said, it would behoove you to look at all the people in your camp (environment) that have a direct affect on your success or demise. If these people are not your supporters or contributors, then it probably would be in your best interest to get them out of your way to the top... You don't need a bunch of thorns or thickets; you need a path that you can navigate your way through. That is if you want to win at the game you are playing... Whether it is the game of life you are playing or the corporate game of making it to the top faster than the next man... You still need a winning hand from the very start and that my dear, is critical to your success.

Now that we have discussed what is really going on here and who is really in the support group to help the men win the game they are playing... Let's look at what is - what can be - and what we are going to do about it... This starts by taking a good look in the mirror and thinking about some of what I have said that applies to your life or the men in your life. The support group really are the women, since I have been talking all along about helping men in need. You see, there is only two groups of people in this world that I know about "the women" and "the men." So, if you are not the 'man' that I am talking about in my article, then you clearly are the other side of the coin or the 'woman' in this case scenario. Are we on the same page here? If so, what are you going to do to support the efforts of the man in your life that really needs a source of encouragement, strength and guidance? You don't need to tell me what you are going to do, but my message is stimulate your mind in order to motivate you to think about it, first and foremost; then to act accordingly to issues of this nature in your life. Is this too much to ask of you?

Bet you are huffing and puffing right about now and possibly saying all sorts of unkind things about me like "who the "h*#!^" are you asking me to do... this, this and that?! Another one may say "You had better look at your own life and fix it if it needs to be fixed, but don't tell me what to do in my life with my own man!! Huff, puff & buff, huh you got some nerve!"

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