be ready and if it’s relevant, what she should wear too (she won’t thank you if she turns up to a ball in her jeans or the ice rink in a ball gown). Don’t expect or even ask her to choose – if you want to be a man that’s your job. If she wants to do something else she’ll tell you.
Open doors for her, pull her chair out and even pick up the bill if you want to, but don’t stop her from contributing if she wants to.
Ignore everything you’ve heard about not opening doors for women etc. Its feminist propaganda designed to confuse, emasculate and control men; and it’s peddled by women you’re never going to be attracted to for very long, if at all. They are angry at you and me for what they perceive other guys did in the past, so if you meet one, I suggest you make a swift exit because you are not to blame for what other guys did or didn’t do in the past and anyway, you can do a lot better.
#13 Make it about the people, not about the money
Far too many people meet on a first date and make it all about money. Chic restaurants, expensive cocktails, taxis, tickets and so on. You really don’t need to spend a fortune to have a great time together. The best date I ever had was a cup of coffee from the drive thru at McDonalds followed by the two of us dancing together under the stars to my car stereo in the gateway of a farm on a quiet country lane. So come on guys, be inventive, be romantic and be spontaneous without having to rely on money to make the man. Do this whilst being yourself and you’ll blow her away! Just think country walks, picnics, the beach or any other natural setting.
#14 Be firm
Women want a man who is in control of himself and his own life. That means you don’t let people push you around physically, mentally or emotionally. No woman will find herself truly able to respect a man who lets others treat him like a doormat. If you can’t do something for someone else, be a man and say so up front. The same goes for those times when you could but you just don’t want to. Don’t be wishy-washy, be decisive. She wants a man who doesn’t put up with crap from others – including her!
#15 Be assertive
When you feel the time is right to kiss her, whatever you do, don’t ask her for a kiss, or ask for her permission to kiss her, or even tell her you want to kiss her – Just be a man and steal a kiss! If she doesn’t want you to kiss her or just isn’t ready yet she’ll make it clear. As a guy this is just something you have to make a judgement call on and then choose your moment. A great time to steal your first kiss is when you’ve just made her laugh.
#16 Be gentle
When you touch a woman, especially at the beginning of any intimate encounter with her, be gentle; stroke her skin really, really softly (imagine you are stroking the wings of a beautiful, yet delicate butterfly), and kiss her in a way that your lips are barely touching hers to start with. Notice her reactions and build this very slowly. As the passion builds, the touching and kissing can too, but take your time, she’s a warm, sensual woman, not a cold beer or a rib-eye steak and there really is no rush!
#17 Be interested
When you talk to a woman, be genuinely interested in what she has to say. Don’t pretend to be interested, actually get interested. You don’t have to agree with her or tell her she’s right, but the fact that you actually pay attention to what she has to say is something she will notice about you very quickly and in most cases this will do her opinion of you a power of good.
#18 Be detached
Far too many guys focus on the outcome they want to achieve when talking to a woman they are attracted to; and the woman knows it. If you want her phone number, a date, a dance or anything else from her, she will sense it very quickly and when she does it gives her almost all the power in your interactions with her. As soon as she has all the power, you are suddenly competing with every other guy who wants her attention so don’t do it.
Instead, focus on simply enjoying her company, making her smile/laugh or just being plain friendly. Forget what you want to achieve until such a point that it becomes very obvious that she wants that too. Just get on with getting on with her and detach from the outcome. Even guys who are incredible with women can’t get a result every time, so let it go.
#19 Look like a man
Women want a guy who takes care of himself and cares about the way he looks because it says an awful lot about the way he sees himself and the world around him. However, no woman wants a guy who looks better than she does, or heaven forbid, takes longer getting ready than she does – she doesn’t spend all that time, money and effort to look her best, only to be upstaged by her man!
In conclusion guys, it’s not hard to be a man, it just takes a little thought, a little courage and a clear vision in your mind of who you are. So if in the past, you’ve struggled to understand what it is that women really want, just do the things I’ve mentioned above and the results will amaze you.
Just "Be A Man" About It...
By: Steve Bunyan - Life Coach
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