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Top 10: Ways To Become
A Better Man
Article By: David DeAngelo (AskMen.com)
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Constantly improve yourself - This is an idea I got from W. Edwards Deming, one of the most influential productivity experts of all time. Continually work to improve everything you do and every part of yourself. You’ll find the people in life that are always working to improve are the ones who have massive success, both in women and life. Get rid of this idea that someday you’ll “arrive,” that you’ll be the perfect person and you won’t have any room to improve. Be open to growth and never-ending improvement.
Stop projecting your weaknesses onto others - If you want to find your issues really fast, make a list of all the characteristics you hate in other people. Then make a list of all the characteristics you admire in other people. Hold up the two lists in front of you; the ones you hate the most are most likely the ones you hate the most about yourself, and the ones you admire the most are ones you’re not giving yourself permission to develop. Work on replacing the characteristics you don’t like, and let yourself develop the ones that will take your life to the next level.
Eliminate bad habits – get better ones - Habits are like rivers: The more water runs through it, the deeper it carves over time, until you have things like the Grand Canyon. Do you think it’s easier to change course when the river is new or millions of years old? My point here is that habits you’ve had for a while are more difficult to uproot. When you can break the “habit” of not letting negative habits take root and start forming positive habits instead, you’ll see huge improvements in your life.
Know when you are out of control - Whenever you sense that you’re losing your grip, just stop. Don’t judge yourself. Don’t get down on yourself. Don’t make yourself a victim. Just stop -- and reflect. Don’t force yourself to try to take control back because that’ll just make things worse. Instead, just stop and get some space. Spend some time alone, meditate, do something that distracts you. Then come back when you’re ready. An out-of-control guy isn’t the kind of guy who attracts women or lives a fulfilling life.
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Make your territory yours - One great factory feature we humans come with is the idea of being territorial. It means you have a certain physical space that is your area, and you don’t like others intruding. In modern times, this territorial nature doesn’t get to express itself in healthy ways. Here’s one solution: Figure out how you can make the space you live in your territory -- how you can make it uniquely yours -- so that when you get pressure from the outside and need a place to chill, you have a place that you want to go to. As soon as you walk in the door, you can already feel yourself relaxing and feeling “at home.”
But protect your territory. If someone comes in and does anything unacceptable to you, say: “Stop for a sec; I think it’s better if you go right now. I don’t like it when that kind of thing happens inside my space. Why don’t you go right now and we’ll pick this up another time.” Make your territory yours. Own it. Women will respect you for it too.
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Lead - Having spent some years trying to figure out how to lead, I’ve learned that what’s interesting about leading is all the “counterintuitive” aspects of it. Less experienced people think leadership is about controlling other people, but what I’ve found is that effective leadership is actually finding people with high potential and then supporting their own achievement. Even if you don’t want to be a “leader,” it’s still important to study it and learn how to do it -- so when the situation calls, you can pull the skill up and use it. In life, when a crisis comes up people look around to see who’s going to grab the ball and lead everyone to safety. Learn how to be that guy. (By the way, women are naturally attracted to guys who lead.)
Stop idealizing women - Stop idealizing. When you meet a woman that seems perfect, hear the warning in your head that says “Stop Idealizing!” It can make a huge difference in how fulfilling your life is. READ MORE
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