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Even though I did agree with them, the heart chooses who, what and when it wants. There was also the issue of the distance- Chris was based in Ghana at the time and that was also something we had to consider and not take things too seriously too soon. But in spite of all, we always found our way back to each other. We just couldn’t stay apart for too long. (Blushing) Chris: The first hitch was that we weren’t allowed to date. You weren’t allowed to date on set. It was one of the rules and part of the contract. It was something that wasn’t encouraged because it could get in the way of work. But I think it was something we always handled well when we were dating and like I said earlier we were very good friends for a very long time. The reservations that we first had was to make sure to keep it quiet but beyond that we shared reservations that everyone else shares when they are getting into new relationships. But ultimately all our reservations have been clarified, we’ve made it this far, still here and loving each other. I’m still very much in love with this incredible woman; I probably don’t say it enough but the truth is I’m truly blessed with Damilola as my wife. She is my mantle and strong parts of my reasons for being; she gives me purpose and I love her. What did your families think about the relationship and eventual marriage? Did you have any initial reservations about the relationship? Dami: Naturally yes! We had just met each other and had our individual stories and baggage. He is Ghanaian and I’m Nigerian, two totally different cultures and traditions. We both had to think and see how we felt about that. Also initially when we met, Chris had just come out of a nasty relationship, so he wasn’t looking to be in another relationship anytime soon and I also didn’t want to be a rebound either. Then there was also work and all the rules involved. We didn’t think it was proper to mix business with pleasure. Tinsel was a great platform that launched or boosted a lot of people’s career, no one wanted to mess things up for themselves at the time. I remember when some people began to sense the chemistry between us and getting advice from people at work about focussing on the job that I was there to do and not get distracted. Dami: From my end we didn’t suffer any setbacks! My mum already knew about him from the first day I told her I had met someone I felt weird about. I literally said to her ‘mummy I think I found my husband’ and she was like ‘really? That’s cool’ she didn’t mind that he was Ghanaian because at the time she also had a very close friend who was also Ghanaian. She loves Ghana and often visits when she needs a break. So from day one she knew how I felt about him even when we had some very trying issues. Chris and I have had our fair share of stormy weathers- we honestly have. Even during those times, my mum was so supportive. She would always say that I should hold on and pray to God and believe in the love that we had for each other and believe that the love would surpass whatever situation we found ourselves. My mum always said Chris was such a proper gentle man; she is very fond of him. My dad is late now, but even though he knew about Chris they never actually got to meet because Chris was away for a while before his demise (bless his soul). Chris: Also, by the time we were ready to get married, both families were already familiar with each other. We had all the encouragements that we needed and here we are building another part of the big family. It is no longer a Ghanaian or Nigerian thing but an African family. I’m feeling my half- Nigerian side already. Our son is a perfect representation of both worlds- he is definitely the best of both worlds. MAY 2015 | BLANCK MEGAZINE | 59