Badassery Magazine March 2018 Issue22 - Page 49

W e are often told to vi- sualize our achieve- ments, to write down your goal and put it somewhere that you can see it every day, to “put it out to the universe” and it will materialize. MAGIC! So what happens from now, where you have written down that goal, to when you achieve it? Is the “universe” actually just going to hand you “success” first thing Monday morning? Will you turn up to an event and have a crowd of fans, followers and raving clients cheering you on as you walk down the red carpet? I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but…It doesn’t work that way. Let me tell you a little bit about what does work, though. You have to set it up, make the room for the fabulous things in life. And… make sure what you are asking for, what you’re working on, is REALLY what you want! Authenticity is so important when you’re setting goals. So often we get tied up in trying to be like someone else. We have idols, we have role models, we have people we look up to, and we often try to copy them so that we can shine their confidence and achieve the things that they have achieved in their life. While “copying” someone who is a positive influence in our lives seems harmless, we aren’t grow- ing the confidence in ourselves. We aren’t accepting who we are and becoming all that we can be. We are limiting ourselves into be- coming what we see of that per- son. Did you see what I wrote there?? WHAT WE SEE Yes, we don’t see it all. We proba- bly don’t see that person up in the morning having a healthy break- fast, getting a workout in, pluck- ing their eyebrows, cutting their toenails, digging the crusties out of their eyes, reading up on changes in social media, feeling like they want to quit, on calls with their coaches, networking, or subscrib- ing to newsletters. We see someone with glow- ing skin, a tight waistline, energy, knowledge, wisdom, and man, they just know EVERYBODY! So, stop. Stop it right there! REAL- LY think about this. WHAT do they have, WHAT have they achieved or WHAT do they portray that you desire? Are they just plain old happy? Do they have they smile and hold their head up high? Do you see them dancing around and singing songs? (that’s actually a technique to change your state of mind…fyi) Are they just able to sit answer questions in live situations without hesitation? (Showing up consis- tently, trusting yourself with your own personal experiences, stories, and inner work will get you there too.) Do they throw an ad out there that they are hosting an event, or are launching a new program and it is filled the next day? (see above and below) What’s your next move? Write down what it is you want. And it can’t be to BE someone else. It has to be YOU. And, yes, put it some- where that you will see it. Make it pretty if you wa