we have to be boys and girls, I just
want to be a PERSON!” and “I’m
jealous of you that you feel like a
girl, I feel like nothing, can’t I just
be nothing?” to which I would re-
ply, “Of course you can babe.”
while deep down I was worried. I
didn’t know how to handle this!
I was intimately familiar with is-
sues of self-love, but this wasn’t
like my mom saying she was a
“bad girl” when she ate a cookie…
I could deal with that. I had been
actively hiding my self-loathing
from my boy, who thankfully didn’t
even know self-loathing was a
thing… this was different, he was in
PAIN. A pain I knew nothing about.
I didn’t know where to start.
Google to the rescue! I discovered
the binary and gender spectrum
and we FINALLY had the power of
language to guide the conversa-
tion! I always felt like labels were
bullshit but in that moment, I saw
the beauty of connection. My boy
knew he wasn’t the only person
alive who felt like he did (previ-
ous to that moment, he actually
thought he was!)
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I know I already told you the story
of how I stopped hating on myself
but here’s the really cool part, as
my boy came into himself, all of the
lessons I’d taught him came to life
THROUGH him and I finally GOT IT!
I could see a real-life 3-D version
of active self-love and it blew my
mind! Seeing what It looked like for
reals was a game changer for me!
I was great at redirecting my
thoughts but still concerned my-
self with how others thought of
me. I was still hung up on being
accepted. He showed me that
much like happiness, acceptance
is an INSIDE job!
He has told me that he has dealt
with some less than kind people
but even when that happens he
assumes that the asshole is the
odd man out, not the other way
around. WAY too often we as-
sume that if one person is judging
us that everyone is, but why do we
stack the deck against ourselves
like that!? What a powerful per-
spective shift AWAY from a victim
mentality. He writes his story and
it’s a GREAT one.
That moment in the mirror was
nearly 5 years ago. I still redi-
rect the occasional not-so-nice
thought, I still actively judge myself
less and love myself WAY more. I
still think kittens are adorable… but
now I do it with perspective. I now
know what it looks like to truly not
give a fuck what someone is think-
ing when they look at me. It’s pret-
ty fucking cool.
Badass, if you find yourself letting
the shit-show run the mic in your
head please know that you can
judge yourself less. You can love
yourself more, and you deserve
to! You can redirect your thoughts
and evict the squatters who are up
to no good. No matter what story
you’ve been telling yourself about
how you will fit in, know, YOU get
to write that story.
Sending Peace, Love, and MAGIC.
Amber Brio is a visionary, leading others to discover their innate MAGIC. She
is a Catalyst Coach for spiritually gifted entrepreneurs. Incorporating intuitive
healing, and pure Divine empowerment into business is what she was born for.
Her work has been described as “Magic in a time machine”. Amber’s mission
in life is to promote radical self-love and help others embrace their personal
power (a.k.a. Divinity). To live raw and authentically. To raise the vibration of
money and sex by releasing the stigmas and shame. To say FUCK YES to the
things that inspire her and encourage others to do the same. Amber has the
uncanny ability to connect on a soul level with her clients. She creates a secure
safe place that becomes the platform for clients to break through barriers to
personal transformation and expansion in every possible area of life. She be-
lieves in magic. She IS the epitome of her own work. Amber lives unabashedly
in beautiful southern Utah with her equally magical son where she can be found
dancing in a grocery store, climbing a mountain or swimming naked in a river
(weather permitting of course).
amberbrio.com