Badassery Magazine June 2018 Issue 25 - Page 56

we have to be boys and girls, I just want to be a PERSON!” and “I’m jealous of you that you feel like a girl, I feel like nothing, can’t I just be nothing?” to which I would re- ply, “Of course you can babe.” while deep down I was worried. I didn’t know how to handle this! I was intimately familiar with is- sues of self-love, but this wasn’t like my mom saying she was a “bad girl” when she ate a cookie… I could deal with that. I had been actively hiding my self-loathing from my boy, who thankfully didn’t even know self-loathing was a thing… this was different, he was in PAIN. A pain I knew nothing about. I didn’t know where to start. Google to the rescue! I discovered the binary and gender spectrum and we FINALLY had the power of language to guide the conversa- tion! I always felt like labels were bullshit but in that moment, I saw the beauty of connection. My boy knew he wasn’t the only person alive who felt like he did (previ- ous to that moment, he actually thought he was!) Amber Brio 55 I know I already told you the story of how I stopped hating on myself but here’s the really cool part, as my boy came into himself, all of the lessons I’d taught him came to life THROUGH him and I finally GOT IT! I could see a real-life 3-D version of active self-love and it blew my mind! Seeing what It looked like for reals was a game changer for me! I was great at redirecting my thoughts but still concerned my- self with how others thought of me. I was still hung up on being accepted. He showed me that much like happiness, acceptance is an INSIDE job! He has told me that he has dealt with some less than kind people but even when that happens he assumes that the asshole is the odd man out, not the other way around. WAY too often we as- sume that if one person is judging us that everyone is, but why do we stack the deck against ourselves like that!? What a powerful per- spective shift AWAY from a victim mentality. He writes his story and it’s a GREAT one. That moment in the mirror was nearly 5 years ago. I still redi- rect the occasional not-so-nice thought, I still actively judge myself less and love myself WAY more. I still think kittens are adorable… but now I do it with perspective. I now know what it looks like to truly not give a fuck what someone is think- ing when they look at me. It’s pret- ty fucking cool. Badass, if you find yourself letting the shit-show run the mic in your head please know that you can judge yourself less. You can love yourself more, and you deserve to! You can redirect your thoughts and evict the squatters who are up to no good. No matter what story you’ve been telling yourself about how you will fit in, know, YOU get to write that story. Sending Peace, Love, and MAGIC.  Amber Brio is a visionary, leading others to discover their innate MAGIC. She is a Catalyst Coach for spiritually gifted entrepreneurs. Incorporating intuitive healing, and pure Divine empowerment into business is what she was born for. Her work has been described as “Magic in a time machine”. Amber’s mission in life is to promote radical self-love and help others embrace their personal power (a.k.a. Divinity). To live raw and authentically. To raise the vibration of money and sex by releasing the stigmas and shame. To say FUCK YES to the things that inspire her and encourage others to do the same. Amber has the uncanny ability to connect on a soul level with her clients. She creates a secure safe place that becomes the platform for clients to break through barriers to personal transformation and expansion in every possible area of life. She be- lieves in magic. She IS the epitome of her own work. Amber lives unabashedly in beautiful southern Utah with her equally magical son where she can be found dancing in a grocery store, climbing a mountain or swimming naked in a river (weather permitting of course).      