Sometimes you won’t be able to
bring yourself to say that this is
good in any way Maybe it hurts too
much. Then you can start with this
sucks less because… At least…
Please know that finding some-
thing of value and merit doesn’t
ever exempt another person from
wrongdoing or mean that your
feelings are utterly and complete-
ly valid. This is not about ever let-
ting someone else off the hook, it’s
about letting yourself off the hook.
I’m not suggesting you ignore your
feelings. Or try to talk yourself out
of grief. But when an experience
has hijacked your brain and your
heart, you have a technique to take
it back.
This is good because may NOT
work for you. It may make you an-
gry and sick to your stomach. If it
does, then shift the wording into
something that doesn’t trigger an-
ger or panic. Maybe “despite the
pain and frustration, the lesson or
gift here is…” This HAS good be-
cause. This situation HAS good
because. This situation that feels
so awful right now has unintended
consequences of good because…
Because I am amazing, I have
found slivers of goodness in this
horrible awful no good situation
because it has led me to XYZ. Or..
“well shit. This is good because it
makes a great story.”
I’m not trying to Pollyanna here.
Many people need a solid throat
punch and sometimes life really
does suck, but let Karma handle
that. Feel your anger. Throw plates
at the wall if that’s your thing. But
then get back on track as fast as
possible.
Practice this framing on the little
things for a week and let me know
if you start to feel a sense of relief
of being freed from anger. You de-
serve freedom.
Your homework? Reframe one sit-
uation and email me with the sub-
ject line THIS IS GOOD BECAUSE
and I’ll give you personal feedback
and a hell yeah to keep you going
on your progress. I’d love to hear
from you. allie@creativegangsters.
com
You’ve got this, you beautiful ba-
dass.
Yo, I'm Allie Smith. Solopreneur Coach + Tribe Builder + Visual Content Cre-
ator. I have a B.A. in Literature and Writing Studies and an M.S. in Instructional
and Performance Technology (basically adult learning with an emphasis in on-
line learning, sounds super smarty pants, right?). I have worked with scientists,
doctors and PhDs via strategy calls and ongoing professional training in mas-
termind groups to further their career and personal development. And now I
use all those skills to help solopreneurs build their online marketing.
I’m wildly multi-passionate and my passions are mindful travel, craft coffee
and photography. One of my joys is working with clients to use their message
to attract and build a fierce, loyal following. I also have an Instagram addiction.
Allie Smith
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I read all my own email and I’d love to connect.
[email protected]
creativegangsters.com