Badassery Magazine June 2018 Issue 25 - Page 44

Sometimes you won’t be able to bring yourself to say that this is good in any way Maybe it hurts too much. Then you can start with this sucks less because… At least… Please know that finding some- thing of value and merit doesn’t ever exempt another person from wrongdoing or mean that your feelings are utterly and complete- ly valid. This is not about ever let- ting someone else off the hook, it’s about letting yourself off the hook. I’m not suggesting you ignore your feelings. Or try to talk yourself out of grief. But when an experience has hijacked your brain and your heart, you have a technique to take it back. This is good because may NOT work for you. It may make you an- gry and sick to your stomach. If it does, then shift the wording into something that doesn’t trigger an- ger or panic. Maybe “despite the pain and frustration, the lesson or gift here is…” This HAS good be- cause. This situation HAS good because. This situation that feels so awful right now has unintended consequences of good because… Because I am amazing, I have found slivers of goodness in this horrible awful no good situation because it has led me to XYZ. Or.. “well shit. This is good because it makes a great story.” I’m not trying to Pollyanna here. Many people need a solid throat punch and sometimes life really does suck, but let Karma handle that. Feel your anger. Throw plates at the wall if that’s your thing. But then get back on track as fast as possible. Practice this framing on the little things for a week and let me know if you start to feel a sense of relief of being freed from anger. You de- serve freedom. Your homework? Reframe one sit- uation and email me with the sub- ject line THIS IS GOOD BECAUSE and I’ll give you personal feedback and a hell yeah to keep you going on your progress. I’d love to hear from you. allie@creativegangsters. com You’ve got this, you beautiful ba- dass.  Yo, I'm Allie Smith. Solopreneur Coach + Tribe Builder + Visual Content Cre- ator. I have a B.A. in Literature and Writing Studies and an M.S. in Instructional and Performance Technology (basically adult learning with an emphasis in on- line learning, sounds super smarty pants, right?). I have worked with scientists, doctors and PhDs via strategy calls and ongoing professional training in mas- termind groups to further their career and personal development. And now I use all those skills to help solopreneurs build their online marketing. I’m wildly multi-passionate and my passions are mindful travel, craft coffee and photography. One of my joys is working with clients to use their message to attract and build a fierce, loyal following. I also have an Instagram addiction. Allie Smith 43 I read all my own email and I’d love to connect. allie@creativegangsters.com creativegangsters.com 