Making decisions is part of everyday life . We make hundreds of choices each trip around the clock . Most are mundane and not very important . What shall I wear today ? What ’ s for dinner ? Which Facebook groups do I post in today ? Should I cut my hair ?
But then there are the big-fucking-deal mothers of choices . These life-altering decisions can be fraught with all kinds of emotion , old beliefs and patterns , and other monkey mind contortions .
How do we overcome — or perhaps more accurately , work through — all the fears , overthinking , “ shoulds ,” and other goblins and demons that can make it hard for us to make important life choices ?
One step at a time , my friends , one step at a time . And with the help of tools and techniques that keep us in touch with the Universe and our own intuition .
Decisions , Decisions , Decisions
In the past year , I ’ ve had to make no less than 10 life-altering decisions . ten ! Many were forced on me ; for others , I had to choose from among several far-lessthan-ideal options . I won ’ t bore you with all the nasty details , but here ’ s the story in brief .
Last June , I had been living in the lovely central California beach town of Morro Bay for a couple of years . ( How I got there is another story , but let ’ s stay on track .) It ’ s a small beach town of about 10,000 . I loved living there . I had a sweet little cottage 4.5 blocks from the beach , lots of friends and great support for my business . I had a reading / healing space associated with THE crystal / metaphysical shop on the Central Coast and clients who loved me .
Everything was humming along .
Then everything fell apart . It all just went ka-boom .
And I started an unplanned year-long journey of letting go , releasing and trusting in the Universe . Here are the highlights — or , in many cases , lowlights .
Decisions 1-2 : The owner of the darling beach bungalow I was renting decided to sell it , and then my subsequent landlady went bat-shit crazy , so I had to move — twice in 6 months . It ’ s hard to find housing when you have pets , and I had to choose to live in my car — twice .
Decisions 3-5 : I twice had to choose whether give up the office where I saw 95 % of my clients because the landlady kept raising rates and changing the rules . The first time I stayed . The second time I left , which forced me to radically change my business model — and leave tons of money on the table .
Decision 6 : I chose to give up 98 percent of everything I owned — and loved .
Decision 7 : I made the difficult but correct decision to donate my beloved pet of 25 years to what I like to call “ the circus ” ( where he is very happy !).
Decisions 8 : I decided to move from the beach to the desert because everything was telling me that was my next big step .
Decision 9 : After 10 agonizing weeks of stagnant indecision and inaction , I final made the decision to leave .
I ’ m exhausted just rereading this ! It ’ s kind of hard to believe I lived through it and am coming out the other end on the right track .
Had I known what was ahead last June , I would have curled up in a ball and given up .
Fortunately , I didn ’ t know , and so the steps unfolded . And each step had its own series of smaller steps . Sometimes I couldn ’ t even take the next minuscule step because I felt so overwhelmed or incapable or frustrated or depressed . It got worse at the end as I stayed in Morro Bay for 10 weeks basically spinning my wheels because I just couldn ’ t do what I knew I needed to do — relocate .
The major lack of movement was because I came up with a list of things I believed needed to happen before I could move , most of which required lots of cash-ola — which I didn ’ t have . I worked toward manifesting and achieving my prerequisites , but nothing happened . Try as I might — creating and promoting different programs and offers in my business , being open to receiving , etc .— nothing attracted my idea clients and I made very few sales .
After lots of healing and support 56