Badassery Magazine January 2018 Issue 20 - Page 63

S elf-Love. It’s something all the life gurus are talking about. It’s something we are constantly seeing on social media, on television and in our favorite self-development books. But really though, is self-love just putting cucumbers on our eyes and slapping some nail polish on our toes, so we can feel fancy? If you look it up in the dictio- nary, the definition is vanity and narcissism. Let’s face it there are so many mixed up definitions of what self-love truly is. So, guess what bitches, it’s time that all the badass women in this world know what it is and how to prac- tice it to build a fucking amazing life. What I have learned in this past year about self-love, is that it is taking back your power. It is proving to the Universe that your being and your life are import- ant. It’s looking in the mirror and giving yourself the gift of “No”. I know that sounds a little harsh, but it’s true. The power of “No” can open so many doors for us a business woman, a wife, a friend, and a person in general. Quick story, this past month I picked up a night shift at a local hospital because I enjoy helping people and wanted to bring in some extra cash flow. I had never worked the night shift before, so I thought that it would be fine and dandy. I got through the first week great. I hardly missed a beat in my regular life. Then came the second week. Did I forget to mention that it’s the middle of flu season and I am working in a hospital? I woke up one afternoon and felt like death. My energy was depleted, my nose was on fire and my stomach was angry. My boss already wanted me to go into work that night. I took a step back from what I was doing at that moment and decided to give myself the gift of “No”. I asked myself, “Tonya, is this job really worth being miserable for 8 hours? What’s more important to you? This job or yourself?”. Your damn right. I chose my damn self. I said no to depleting my energy. I said no to doing something that my whole being was literally crawling away from. I gave myself some love and it felt fucking amazing. 62