Badassery Magazine December 2017 Issue 19 | Page 79

T
here are a lot of women
who would love to write a
book. It’s constantly nag-
ging at the back of your mind.
You have a lot to share with the
world, so why don’t you? What’s
stopping you?
What stops you from writing is
fear. It comes in different fla-
vours, but it’s all made of the
same stuff. Fear of success, rejec-
tion, you’re not qualified enough,
persecution, you don’t have
enough to say, you won’t know
how to say it, you’re not ‘a writer’
so you’re going to screw it up and
the list of fears goes on.
These fears usually started in our
childhood.
To trace your fears ask yourself,
what is the worst review you
could get on your book? If some-
one absolutely hated it, what
would they say?
After you’ve written that down
ask yourself who in your child-
hood used to say or imply those
things to you? Who (of the people
you know or have known) would
you be terrified would read this
book and give you shit about it?
Now for the moment of truth…
Just how full of shit were they?
Describe 3-5 moments where
you demonstrated the opposite
of whatever they accused you
of. For bonus points, count how
many people you can think of
who told you the opposite. Do
this for each accusation.
For example: “You’re stupid.”
A) Pulled straight A’s
B) Speak 3 languages
C) Running my own business
Bonus points: 11 in 20 seconds
and that’s off the top of my head.
Hmm… 1 person saying I’m
stupid, versus 11 saying I’m not.
I wonder if I should ask for help
from the audience here to choose
the correct statement?
I don’t have a degree or PhD
This really pisses me off. Waving
a paper around does not auto-
matically make you qualified.
A lot of these people with these
papers go off to be – here’s the
kicker – trained on the job.
Life experience always has been
and always will be a far better
teacher than any university. You
can supplement life experience
with degrees, but degrees are not
a substitute for life experience.
To give you an example, I knew a
girl who suffered from DID (Dis-
sociative Identity Disorder). She
spent 3 hours in a room explain-
ing her concerns to 3
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