Badassery Magazine December 2017 Issue 19 | Page 75

A
new year is a good time
to determine our focus
for the year. As you look
at your 2018 goals, here are
6 things to give up so you can
actually get the important things
done:
1. Doubting Yourself: This is a
tough one to conquer, isn’t it!?!
We can be our own worst critic.
We doubt ourselves in so many
ways. First, we doubt our deci-
sions and analyze the hell out of
things. I call this analysis paral-
ysis. The truth is when we are
faced with a decision; usually
the first thought that we think is
our intuition trying to guide us.
When we start letting the inter-
nal and external chatter sway
us, we get stuck. Next time you
find yourself in the circle of self-
doubt, say “cancel” and re-frame
the situation in a positive way.
Affirm your true worth because
the fact is you were made for
greatness! Trust that.
2. Negative Thinking: When we
doubt ourselves, we question our
divine source. When we get into
the cycle of negative thinking,
this turns into negative habits,
which turns into beliefs and it’s
all just one vicious cycle that’s
difficult to break. We have over
65,000 thoughts a day and most
of them are negative. Worse,
these thoughts are mostly sub-
conscious. The good news is
you can change this. It takes
deliberate practice and an in-
tention to think positively. Next
time you hear yourself think or
say something negative, stop
yourself by affirming “cancel”
or “stop” followed by saying the
opposite. Start with the words I
AM… “I am” are two of the most
powerful words in the universe
so pay special attention to what
follows these two powerful words.
Alternatively, you can say, “I
choose…” and notice how your
energy shifts.
3. Worry and Fear: Ah, where
worry and fear is concerned, the
struggle can be real. When we
worry we aren’t in a state of joy
or gratitude. We can only feel
one thing at a time. When we
are afraid, we lack trust. Trust
in God/Universe, ourselves, life,
and others. Think about the last
time you worried about some-
thing. The actual outcome was
probably nowhere near what
was in your head, right? When
it comes to failure, I believe we
don’t fail. We are simply finding
one more thing that won’t work.
That means you are one step
closer to success. Sometimes,
when we are afraid of failure,
that’s a clue that we should go
for it and stretch ourselves. I
challenge you to feel the fear and
have the courage to work through
it as the other side of fear is
success! There is so much going
on when we are afraid of success.
Our fear can be around being
judged by others. The more suc-
cessful you are, the more visible
you are and the more your life is
open to being criticized. A
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