Badassery Magazine December 2017 Issue 19 - Page 67

When I chatted to some of my friends again, I discovered that none of them had a ‘plan’ for the future either. “Why bother? Nobody can predict the future so “live in the moment, man”. Maybe I’m just an overly emotional person, but hearing this drove me totally crazy again! First, I decided I needed some new people in my life... Then, I wondered why we all seem to have the same basic programming: assuming nothing will go as you want, so that when the shit hits the fan, you won’t be disappointed. I had a similar mindset but it took a big personal life changing event to get my head into the game… Two years ago, my wife and I became Moms to twin girls. Kids! As soon as I held my girls in my arms, I knew: I want to stick around as long as possible to be a witness to your lives... None of that, “what if something happens” drama – just full on “what if everything plays out the way I plan?” ... better start planning! Yes, I was a pretty successful freelancer, who was making a good living and could have just kept going in the same direction for years; but... I began to realise that freelancing (the inevitable ‘time trading’), was a risky business to be in! If I wanted time off, was sick, or just needed to be able to take care of my kids, it meant I couldn’t work. And what did no work mean? No pay... In my head I already knew that I didn’t want to be a, “sorry Mommy needs to go to work” type Mom all the time. I seriously did not want to be stressing over income while balancing my life. The answer was, as many times before: multiple streams of income. Yep, working on those ideas of mine (again)… Oh boy… I was dreading that never ending pile of failures (again); but... I soon noticed that something had changed. There was a picture in the back of my mind... A picture of my family and I living mortgage-free, living a self-sustainable lifestyle, without having to be dependent on government financial aid... We’d be retiring to our own property, eating our own veggies and charging our electric car via solar panels and stuff. A pretty big dream… a serious reach from my current situation perhaps; but, I started to BELIEVE in this future reality. I decided that I wasn’t going to worry on the ‘how; of getting there, instead focusing on what I wanted. What I wanted to do more than ANYTHING was to get my ideas into the world! Creating my own side-hustle of problem-solving tools… MY PASSION! Being able to see and feel what I wanted to achieve and create MY path of HOW I would ‘get there’… And, because I had this pretty epic history of project fails (ouch); I decided to create a tool for myself first - helping me getting my shit done! I needed a tool that would remind me of what I wanted to achieve daily... A tool that would make it easy for me to recognise if the things I was doing daily were contributing to my dream, or if I was caught up in “being busy” (again), wasting my time... I designed a dashboard, which was so grand and abundant that it was just too large of a project for me to get done. Without falling in despair, my next thought was: how can I make it smaller? How can I think of something to get done in 1 year? Then, perhaps a year was too long to keep momentum going? OK, what about a quarter of a year - 13 weeks? I wrote down the date, 13-weeks from that day on a piece of paper as my deadline. Next I started to take apart my HUGE idea. What small version of this could I ‘get to done’ and released within 13 weeks; but would still be of value to me and others? It became a guided journal. With a deadline and goal; the guided journal was to be designed, printed and sold within 13 weeks – it was so easy to plan out my actions in the 13 weeks in between! When you know where you stand now, and you know where you want to be; it is simple as fuck to map out the steps you need to take to get you there! But there’s more… by setting a deadline and a goal, you have a clear mental (and visual) image of where you are going. Not only is it easy to figure out what steps to take, but the goals and date act as a contract with yourself. This changes the whole dynamic 66 When I chatted to some of my friends again, I discovered that none of them had a ‘plan’ for the future either. my needs to go to work” type Mom all the time. I seriously did not want to be stressing over income while balancing my life. “Why bother? Nobody can pre- dict the future so “live in the moment, man”. The answer was, as many times before: multiple streams of income. Yep, working on those ideas of mine (again)… Maybe I’m just an overly emo- tional person, but hearing this drove me totally crazy again! First, I decided I needed some new people in my life... Then, I wondered why we all seem to have the same basic program- ming: assuming nothing will go as you want, so that when the shit hits the fan, you won’t be disappointed. I had a similar mindset but it took a big personal life changing event to get my head into the game… Two years ago, my wife and I became Moms to twin girls. Kids! 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