M
y reaction is visceral. I
am torn between snap-
ping my laptop shut
and letting my fingers fly to fling
nastiness back at the person
who stirred it up in me. Maybe I
should be asking what could pos-
sibly trigger me so. Instead, I can
not think, I just feel rage. How
dare this person misunderstand
me so! And more importantly,
how dare they try to belittle me
with a nasty hook instead of en-
gaging in open dialogue.
What has me so riled up? A
snarky comment on a post that
I shared with the intention of
helping. There was nothing self
promotional in the post. It was
a post by someone famous and
respected among authors. Espe-
cially among, but not limited to,
those in the indie community.
There should have been nothing
controversial about it. We should
have been able to have a conver-
sation with no one feeling threat-
ened. And yet sometimes I think
that is the whole problem. We
just feel threatened.
Even my initial reaction was off
the charts. It was a snide com-
ment from someone who was
threatened by what I shared (and
perhaps more so, the positive re-
ception from the other members)
so they lashed out. Perhaps a
little passively aggressively. And
that is my trigger. Because there
is nothing like a mirror to make
you hyperventilate.
But shadow work is not what I
want to talk about here. Instead,
I want to talk about what set us
both off in the first place. Some-
thing so small and simple and
yet removes our security blanket.
Are you ready for this earth shat-
tering revelation?
There is no one way to do things.
I know. It makes you quake
doesn't it. Although stop for a
moment. And really read that
sentence. Drop the sarcasm. For-
get what your guru said. What if
there really and truly is no right
way?
We all say “of course there isn't
just one right way.” Then, de-
spite this common sense piece of
knowledge people hit the streets
to protest all the different ways
people want to live …. differ-
ently. We are all about diversi-
ty until it moves in next door.
“THAT COUPLE OPENLY HAS
SEX WITH OTHER PEOPLE.
Don't let your kids play with
their kids!!! We do our screwing
around in secret and with max-
imum damage upon revelation.
Like NORMAL people thank
you!”
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