Badassery Magazine April 2018 Issue 23 - Page 53

I 'm the kind of person who goes ALL in when I want to know the answer to something. I’ll do things like spend countless hours researching the absolute best way to have lusciously, bouncing curls of hair: use only clarifying condi- tioner, no shampoo, apply $4 hair gel to sopping wet hair while still in the shower, do not towel dry, instead wrap a t-shirt around your head for 30 minutes, use "praying hand" to scrunch after it eventu- ally air drys. If that sounds more complicated than "buy this mira- cle product" you're right - but it's still the absolute BEST thing for my hair. Believe me, I've tried every- thing. Evvvverything. It also turns out that following my curiosity is the absolute BEST thing for my sanity too. Another of these clues I picked up on during the book writing process was this... Here's the thing about curiosity and obsession: when curiosity guides your every (sometimes obsessive) move, you're prone to pick up on subtle clues. So allow me to present... For instance, after a heinous year of one awful thing happening after another, my curiosity of bravery and courage led me to an obses- sion -- What the HELL is bravery? How come nobody has a really good definition for it? Is it born? Is it practiced? What are the ingredi- ents? My obsession for answers fol- lowed the subtle clues to this con- clusion: Bravery is what happens when vulnerability, imagination, and improvisation get mixed to- gether. This curious obsession to learn more about bravery fueled 4 years of research, countless in- terviews, turning those interviews into a podcast, and then writing a bestselling book about it. All in, re- member? I don't tread lightly with my curiosity. Often there is a direct tie to some- one's lack of bravery and their lack of money. Obviously this is a generalization, but hear me out. If we cannot be brave and ask for the sale - we never have a chance at that sale's profit. If we are not bravely enforc- ing boundaries in client relation- ships, then our clients tend to walk all over our payment policies, pay late, or don't pay at all. If we shrink away and hide our introverted strengths, then our customers and colleagues won't even know our unicorn services or miracle prod- ucts exist. 3 Brave Skills to Practice that Build Your Bank Account! There are 12 total ingredients of bravery and all of them are out- lined in my book Bare Naked Brav- ery: How to Be Creatively Coura- geous ( ) but since this is an article and you aren't on a roadtrip listen- ing to me read my entire audio- book out loud, let's use the 3 main ingredients for today's purposes. Building our bank account by practicing the ingredients of brav- ery is pretty new. At least I haven't heard many folks doing this. But I know those of you who like to do everything with extra doses of in- tention will love these suggestions. Those of you pining for a few more decimals represented in your bank statements will love these sugges- tions too. 1. Practice Vulnerability Our beloved Brené Brown de- scribes vulnerability as "emotion- al exposure." I don't need to tell you twice, so I won't -- running a successful, profitable, visible, ba- dass business requires extreme amounts of vulnerability. We have to take risks, acknowledge and en- force boundaries, listen to our lim- itations, and recognize the reality of our situation. All of that requires vulnerability and provides excel- lent places to practice vulnerabil- ity. No, you don't have to go from nev- er making a sale ever to finding the scariest sales situation. Rome was not built in a day. Let's be real here. Pick a small vulnerability. Maybe it’s simply telling your assistant that you're stressed out. Maybe this is taking yourself to go get a pedicure with the expressed pur- pose of using that time to take an honest look at your bank's mobile app. (Who says vulnerability has to feel like your sock-covered vel- cro calluses!?!) Pick something small and honest, preferably daily. This will build your ability to display your authenticity, especially when it matters most. 2. Practice Using Your Imagination The second skill to help build your bank account is using your imagi- nation. I'm not talking about sitting with your mala beads o