Q
I am having a hard time with the
relationships I see my daughter having.
I see the girls pitting against each other
in ways that I know I too was in the middle of
as a kid. How can I teach her to not be a part
of this? Seriously... one minute they are friends
and then the next they are talking behind each
other’s backs.
Breaks your heart to see your child being hurt.
You are able now to see her experience from
the perspective of someone who has not only
been through it, but experienced true friendship.
I don’t know how old your child is, but these
lessons are applicable to all ages—even adults.
Learn to trust your intuition. Your intuition is
the truth. Pay attention to how people make you
feel. Give them one chance, people have bad
days—but if they make you feel icky more than
once, they are not your friend. That being said, I
don’t know if your child is the
Baby Mama
victim or the perpetrator.
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If she’s the perpetrator, you
need to find
out what she gains by making other people
feel small. Is she being treated with
unconditional positive regard at home and
by her other friends? Are her peers giving her
kudos for being mean to others? Maybe a good
heart-to-heart about the kind of friends and
friendships she has versus the ones she wants
is in order. Is she being the kind of friend she
would want?
Friends make you feel good! Friends make
you feel loved and special! Friends lift you up!
If the girls (or boys, or men, or women) in your
life make you feel bad, give you a tummy ache,
make you question your intuition, run! These
are not people you want in your life.
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Sometimes I am just not into it and
fake an orgasm. It’s no big deal,
right? I mean, it’s not every
time. But sometimes I just want to
be done.
Unless you’re a porn star, it is
never okay to fake an orgasm. In
an intimate relationship, like one
in which you would be having
sex, you want to be honest,
authentic, and kind. If you want
to stop—stop. Tell your partner
it’s not working for you. But
don’t fake or be fake ever. This is
not how you communicate with
a person about whom you care. I
assume you care about this person
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how would it feel to you if your partner faked their
feelings? My guess is that it wouldn’t feel good to
you. It’s the golden rule. Treat others the way you want to be treated.