B4Y Mag Issue #17 May 2019 May 2019 Issue #17 B4Y - Page 77

Foreplay Fucking is like decorating – it’s all in the preparation. Taking the time for foreplay will make fucking much more comfortable. This can include rim- ming, gentle fingering, lubrication, patience and listening to each other and responding appropriately. Making sure you take the time to do these things can also help the sphincters relax and reduce the amount of pain and dis- comfort men experience when having anal sex. Positions Different positions will be more comfortable for different couples, depend- ing on the angle of the erection and the curvature of the penis. Any position where your knees are bent and drawn into your chest, whether you are kneeling, lying on your back or on your side, will probably lead to a more comfortable fuck, or will be a good position to start from. This position will straighten out the anal canal and the pubo-rectal sling will draw back to al- low smoother entry to the arse. Relax If you are relaxed, then you will find it easier and more comfortable to get fucked (yes, this is what Frankie Goes to Hollywood were singing about). Deep breathing can help you to relax and allows the arse to relax too. Take your time and make sure you feel comfortable, physically and emotionally. If you’re feeling tense or pressured, it’s going to be harder for you to enjoy yourself. If you’re struggling to accommodate his cock, try clenching your sphincter muscles around it, and then letting them relax. Lube Use water-based or silicone-based lubricant if you’re using latex condoms. Avoid using any lube with nonoxynol-9 in it, as it irritates the lining of the arse and may make sex more painful, as well as making transmission of HIV easier [2]. There is more information on which lubes to use in the HIV and AIDS section of this site. 77