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Erotican’t
Not everyone’s first time is going to be a dulcet choir of pretty little birdies, sometimes
your first man-on-man action can barely muster a squawk.
Steven, 33, was moderately underwhelmed by his first proximity to another man’s pe-
nis. “My first time was with a friend of a friend at university when I was 18. I’d been out
for drinks for my birthday and we’d got chatting – he was pretty drunk and claimed he’d
lost his room key so I told him he could stay at mine. It only went as far as blow jobs –
he wanted to fuck me but we didn’t have any condoms so I told him I wouldn’t do that,
and he respected that and didn’t make any further advances in that department. He
was a good-looking guy and he treated me well, but part of me wishes I’d waited for
someone I was more interested in, and someone a bit less drunk. I wish I’d relaxed a
bit more and not viewed it as a ‘world changing’ event. I think maybe I built it up too
much in advance.”
“I met a guy in a gay club,” explains 29-year-old Dima. “He was an Australian flight
attendant and he took me to his hotel. I’d had no sexual experience at all before this,
barring a drunken, clumsy and aborted fumble with someone in my university halls, so I
let him take the lead. We kissed and fumbled for a while, and I gave him a pretty aw-
ful blowjob. He tried to fuck me and I realised very quickly that I am not a bottom. He
was a lot older than me and the dark red lighting in the club was quite flattering, so it
was quite difficult to stay aroused in all honesty. I was unsurprisingly pretty hopeless at
everything, and he had to do a lot of the guide work, but he didn’t seem to mind. I feel
a bit uncomfortable thinking about how inexperienced and awkward I was now; it must
have been really obvious I was a clueless virgin. It took me ages to cum and I felt mild
disappointment afterwards; it wasn’t the situation I’d imagined losing my virginity in. I
don’t regret it though; I’m not precious about it, and he was a nice guy.”
Guy another day
Not everyone is rushing to expunge their cock cocktail in or on the nearest human male
carcass. Some people are happy to wait before their first erotic encounter and curb the
beast within.
Luke, 21, has never had sex with another man. “I do champion the idea of casual sex,
and plan on having some myself in the future; I would just like to be in a relationship
with someone to experience sex first. And I don’t plan on waiting until marriage. Have
you seen Bridesmaids? No one wants to be the Becca.”
Even though Luke is waiting to find a boyfriend, he hasn’t romanticised the idea of
the ‘first time’. “The typical imagery does comes to mind: candles, rose petals, dinner,
slow-dancing to Daft Punk, and a double bed; you know, the usual highly romanticised
malarkey. But I’d be content with sharing my first time with someone I love at the time.
I do know that things happen in alleys or public bathrooms though – the latter almost
happened to me at a club but I didn’t go through with it.”
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