B4Y Mag Issue #15 January 2019 January 2019 Issue #15 B4Y | Page 63

Into the groove
Sometimes people just get it right first time. There’s no awkwardness, fumbling or re-
gret, they hit the ground running straight out of the sex gate.
“It wasn’t like how everyone says the first time is,” says Elliott, 20. “It wasn’t awkward
and fumbly, it was just normal. I was 18 at the time and the guy ended up being my
boyfriend. It started off with foreplay and we eased into it, seeing as we were both ner-
vous. There was a bit of a discussion about who would do what, which ended with him
saying he didn’t feel comfortable bottoming. I didn’t care if I didn’t enjoy it – I wouldn’t
have to do it again if I didn’t want to. It felt great that I had finally found someone who
wanted to be with me like that. I definitely don’t regret losing my virginity. When I did,
it was because at the time I was happy with him and I felt mature enough in the sense
that I wasn’t losing it for the sake of losing it.”
42-year-old Derek was 21 when he first had a sexual experience with a man and it was
everything he was hoping for. “I had only just come out and the first person I told was
a fellow gay man at work. He encouraged me to meet him and his partner in a local
gay bar, so I plucked up the courage and went but they never showed! I was all pan-
icked, but got talking to a Scottish guy, who was in town for a stag weekend. He made
me feel very comfortable. He said he wasn’t out to his friends, so could only go to gay
bars when he went to other cities – remember this was 1992. We kissed in the bar,
and I brought him back to my flat. We kissed all night, and also there was oral sex and
mutual masturbation. I felt great, was walking on a cloud for days, until the beard rash
kicked in! Afterwards, I wished I hadn’t waited.”
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