Autism Parenting Magazine Issue 74 (Member's Dashboard) - Page 54

 AUTISM ADVOCACY ALWAYS remember your child is a blessing and has a purpose. Your job is to help him/her see that, and give him/her support and confidence no matter what he/she is going through. Don’t forget to challenge your child, too, even when what you want to do is make his/her life easier. I i  s for Inspire - As a parent, when you look ing that. Once we got that solved, we looked at what else was most important for her to thrive. at your child or children, what inspires you? Her heart and her intelligence. One of the struggles with autism is that you can have a child who is so overwhelmed by sensory and neurological issues, that it is hard—or impossible—to gauge their true feelings or how much they understand. Whenev- er we’ve helped our daughter solve an issue, we’ve always learned something amazing about her per- sonality, like her gift for math, or her loyalty to her friends, or her joyful heart! S Some days you have to just let everything go. Even adults take a sick day for feeling bad now and again; it’s okay to recognize that some- times a bad day means just spending it in bed. • Be vigilant and grateful for ALL your child’s “small” achievements. I’ve learned that some- times I’m looking for one thing, and it blinds me to little improvements she’s made in other areas, like a tiny bit more speech or suddenly not being upset in certain situations. The little things are valuable for our kids! • Take time to rest, even in small ways, and get support. It’s one of the MOST important things for parents to prevent burnout. • ALWAYS remember your child is a blessing and has a purpose. Your job is to help him/her see that, and give him/her support and confidence no matter what he/she is going through. Don’t forget to challenge your child, too, even when what you want to do is make his/her life easier. i  s for Support - Are there things you strug- gle with or have struggled with, and what types of support do you still need? My daughter is going through puberty, and this has upended things. It has made some things that pre- viously she had learned to deal with difficult for her again. We have pretty good support through friends, school, aides, doctor, neighbors, and a large online community.  M is for Manage - What keys to success can you leave with parents so that they can better manage their day-to-day efforts? • • Address ONE issue at a time. For us, when our daughter was five years old and STILL sleep- ing in short shifts, it was harmful for the whole family. So we focu 6VBW"GFVF6bФFW'&6W22&&fW76vv&0vF7GVFVG2vfRWF6B26v2FR( VDWFW.( vVRFV27F&W2F&VvV6FW2FVvW"FW'2Fw&VFW72V6Pf6B2vV'6FR"V"6f"&RЦf&FvV'6FSwwrFW'&6W26ФVâfFW'&6W26Ф6âsbcRcc SBWF6&VFrvR77VRs