Autism Parenting Magazine Issue 71 (Member's Dashboard) | Page 40

AUTISM HEALTH Ways to Use Mindful Parenting to Overcome Frustration and Stress By Susan M. TAYLOR, JD “Mindfulness is the process of actively noticing new things,” according to Ellen Langer, who has researched mindfulness for four decades.[1] But, when it comes to parenting, it is much more than that. Mindfulness is the capacity to be fully aware and present in the moment.[2] Giving our children our full attention is one of the most important things we can do as parents. T he sad reality is that most of us are constantly multitasking and not really focusing on any- thing. Our minds wander. We are preoccupied with things that may never happen or worry about what we cannot change in our past. This causes us to feel stressed, depressed and utter- ly exhausted—not a recipe for good parenting.[3] We all strive for stability and peace. This is where mindfulness comes in. The practice of mindfulness 40 | Autism Parenting Magazine | Issue 71 has been shown to reduce stress, depression, and aggression. [4] Stress, it’s an affliction that most people have, and some of us even pass it on to our children. Stress is the wear and tear the body experiences in reaction to everyday tensions and pressures, and it’s conta- gious.[5] Dr. Caroline Bjonbeck, the owner of Bjon- beck Holistic Medicine and Acupuncture, said, “When parents become stressed, children become stressed.