Autism Parenting Magazine Issue 71 (Member's Dashboard) | Page 37

EDUCATION There may be a lot of times that your child needs time alone. It may be that at break times he/she needs alone time instead participating in play time. Explain to the staff that being alone at times during the day helps your child stay at school. but no matter the routine, your child has prob- lems sleeping. Don’t be afraid to ask the staff if there are things during the school day that concern you. Let the staff know that if your child has social or learning difficulties at school that these follow him/her home and affect the ability to sleep at night. Processing informa- tion at night and worrying about things cause significant problems for students with autism. 5. Socializing and alone time There may be a lot of times that your child needs time alone. It may be that at break times he/she needs alone time instead participat- ing in play time. Explain to the staff that being alone at times during the day helps your child stay at school. Tell them you are not worried about your child having friends—at this point, being at school is more important than social- izing during breaks. 6. Communication At times your child may use phrases that are well known to him/her instead of using newer words to describe things. It is typical for stu- dents with autism to use well-worded phras- es or scripts to avoid real communication ex- changes. This may be because of the inability to think quickly to respond, or because they don’t know the right thing to say, so they say something familiar. Some parents train their children to remember familiar responses, so explain this to the staff. If you have concerns about the validity of class- room routines, it does not hurt to ask about them; sometimes questioning staff about what they are doing sends the message that you also have ideas and strategies about how to best interact with your child. Finally, remember that staff who see you as an active person in your child’s life are more likely to re- member that your child has a team of people around who understands his/her needs. Parents are the peo- ple most likely to understand their child’s needs and worries, so it is important to remember that your vis- ible presence is vital. Good teachers listen and inter- act with parents and understand they are a key part of every child’s success. Leigh De Silva is a registered teacher who works in mainstream special education settings. She is also the mother of a young adult and teens who are on the spectrum. She has researched the social under- standing of girls with Asperger’s syndrome in social groups as part of her master’s of autism studies at Griffith University, Queensland. Leigh is particularly interested in supporting parents to help their chil- dren with ASD achieve in the school system through using the models that have helped her children complete their education. Email: [email protected] Autism Parenting Magazine | Issue 71 | 37