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AUTISM THERAPY 3. Set clear rules for your home and convey them to the therapist. If you prefer shoes are not worn in your home, let him/her know up front. Therapists are not mind-readers, and letting them know boundaries will make you both feel more relaxed and will help eliminate future grievances. Decide ahead of time if it is OK if he/she heats up food in your home; if the therapist can go anywhere in your house, or if there are places off-limits; if the therapist can take your child outside. A major issue for me was when a new therapist decided to take my son for a walk to work on “following directions.” She didn’t ask—just left the home and it was over 90 degrees outside. My poor kid came back looking hot, sweaty, and lobster-faced. A new rule was instigated—no one leaves the home without my permission. ly exchanges are to be encouraged, but keep the body of discussion centered on your child and the therapy. Getting too close can blur the lines. Aim for fostering a happy working rela- tionship rather than friendship, and address any serious issues or concerns with his/her su- pervisor. 8. Don’t interfere in the therapy once it is under- way. Save your questions for the end of the ses- sions. Therapy is not always easy, and there may be tears and tantrums as the child is stretched by new demands, or as things become frustrat- ing. Your child will likely be distracted or react differently when you are present and will try to use you as an escape from the tasks set. 4. Discuss which treats and rewards are accept- able as reinforcers for your child. If you don’t want your kids eating their own body weight in Sour Patch Kids during a session, let the thera- pist know. Provide healthy alternatives such as fruit-based snacks or discuss with some non- food, preferred items that would work for your child. My kids are both currently motivated by the chance to handle some “slime,” for exam- ple. 5. Keep a wish list on the wall of the room they work in—therapists can add any items need- ed such as crayons, glue, and tissues ahead of time. You can then grab the list and purchase items when it’s convenient for you. Finding a pack of colored pipe cleaners and a pack of googly eyes at a moment’s notice is never fun. 6. At the end of each session, ask the therapist for feedback. What did he/she do today, and how did your child fare? Ask what you as a parent or care-giver can do now to reinforce those ideas and continue the learning. Take time to under- stand the techniques being taught so you can ensure continuity. If your child has been learn- ing a “please and thank you” song, learn it, too, and sing it with your child—and be sure to make a big deal about praising good manners when they are used appropriately. 7. Keep your relationship with your therapist professional at all times. Small talk and friend- 20 | Autism Parenting Magazine | Issue 68 Caroline Mitchell is a British expat now living in sunny Florida. She is a dedicated mom of eight- year-old twins with autism receiving multiple in- home therapies including 30 hours of ABA therapy a week. She is chief cook and bottle-washer of Chez Mitchell where she somehow finds time to run a successful Central Florida real estate team, homes- chool her children, and write stories for kids on the spectrum.