An Authentic Look at Love & Relationships
by : Beverly N . Vercher Inspired by : Dr . Cedric B . Smith
We all have goals , aspirations , and resolutions for each New Year . Many times we aim to improve our lives . Whether it ' s to get healthier by eating better and working out , becoming more spiritual by going to church , reading our bible , and praying more , finding a better job , starting a business to get more financially stable , or finally finding the Love that we desire ; and that ' s the part I want to talk about .
We have our own vision of the perfect relationship . You ' ve seen the hashtag # RelationshipGoals on a photo of two people who seem to adore one another and you say to yourself , “ Why can ' t I have that ?” We ' ll I ' m here to tell you that you can . As we get older and go through different situations in our relationships we learn and I ' m going to share with you the things that I ' ve learned on my journey .
The most important thing in a relationship is Honesty . When we think of being honest with our mates , we know that we should never lie to them . Which we shouldn ' t but there ' s another level to honesty . It ' s being open about everything related to the two of you and the bond you share . When something isn ' t right , you should be open and honest about how it affects you .
For instance : In the beginning of the relationship he brought you flowers every week and when that day came , you knew that you would come home to a beautiful bouquet of flowers “ just because .” Over time , the flowers only come once every two weeks , then three , every now and again , until finally they stop . You really looked forward to those flowers because they were a representation of his love for you and it hurt your feelings when they stopped . At this point , you should sit him down and talk about how you feel about the situation .
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Express how good it made you feel to receive the flowers and what it meant to you for him to do that for you . Then tell him how it hurt when he stopped bringing them home for you . This will give him a chance to fix the situation by explaining why he stopped . If you don ' t discuss it , you will continue to build animosity about something that , more than likely , he had no idea , was bothering you .
That ' s just on example of how you should be honest with your partner . If they ' re no longer making you happy , not pleasing you sexually , or on a positive note ; you ' ve simply been friends for a long time and you ' ve come to realize that your feelings have progressed into something more . In essence , being honest in your relationship , no matter how big or small the situation ; is vital . Having open communication is the biggest element to any relationship . Your partner can ' t read your mind . No matter how long you ' ve known each other , they won ' t always “ just know .”
In my next article , I will discuss the next step ; Action . Once you and your partner has mastered honesty and the ability to communicate effectively , it ' s time to work on the relationship and get it to a place where the both of you are happy .
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