Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Oct/Nov 2018 Aspire Mag Full Issue - Page 81

– Zig Zigler Let’s take grocery shopping as an example. Have you ever gone to the grocery store without a list before? Yeah, remember that? You came home with about 50% of what you actually needed, a bunch of crap you didn’t really need and you forgot 3 of the ingredients for the dinner you were planning to make. Our lives are busy today. If we don’t make an intentional list of what we need before we head out to the grocery store, we won’t have the things we need in the house when we need to get that meal on the table. What’s that saying from Ben Franklin? “If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail.” It’s the same with your relationship. I know it sounds like a crazy parallel, but hang with me for a second while I explain. If you don’t start with a vision in mind for the relationship that you want to create each day by design, then you end up living in your relationship by default each day, bounced around by the events of the da y and living in reaction to your partner. And most of your reactions in relationship are unconscious, habitual, and picked up from watching the relationships around you growing up, which are probably not relationships you really want to model today. Life today is very fast. Most of us do not take the time, within the moments of the day, to stop, pause and decide, “What is the best way for me to react to my partner in order to create the relationship that I want.” So, just like before going to the grocery store, we need to create a VISION for our relationship ahead of time, so that in the busy moments of the day, we are, in fact, acting on the decisions that we made intentionally. I’m blessed to serve thousands of people every day, and at this point, there’s one thing I know for sure… You are creating the relationship you are living in. With every moment, every decision, every word, every action, every experience you participate in, you are creating your relationship every day. You are currently living in the relationship you have created with your decisions and actions from yesterday. And tomorrow, you will be living in the relationship you created with the decisions and actions you make today. If you are anything like most people, then you have never thought about creating an intentional relationship vision before, and you are currently living in a relationship that you have ended up in by default. I know you had only positive intention for your relationship, you didn’t do that on purpose, it’s just that no one ever teaches us this stuff! Well, life today is busy and complicated. And your committed love relationship is the most important relationship of your life and 81 “YOU CAN’T HIT A TARGET YOU CAN’T SEE.”