Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Oct/Nov 2018 Aspire Mag Full Issue | Page 81

– Zig Zigler
Let’s take grocery shopping as an example.
Have you ever gone to the grocery store
without a list before? Yeah, remember that?
You came home with about 50% of what you
actually needed, a bunch of crap you didn’t
really need and you forgot 3 of the ingredients
for the dinner you were planning to make.
Our lives are busy today. If we don’t make
an intentional list of what we need before we
head out to the grocery store, we won’t have
the things we need in the house when we
need to get that meal on the table.
What’s that saying from Ben Franklin? “If you
fail to plan, you are planning to fail.”
It’s the same with your relationship.
I know it sounds like a crazy parallel, but
hang with me for a second while I explain.
If you don’t start with a vision in mind for the
relationship that you want to create each
day by design, then you end up living in your
relationship by default each day, bounced
around by the events of the da y and living in
reaction to your partner.
And most of your reactions in relationship
are unconscious, habitual, and picked up
from watching the relationships around
you growing up, which are probably not
relationships you really want to model today.
Life today is very fast. Most of us do not take
the time, within the moments of the day, to
stop, pause and decide, “What is the best
way for me to react to my partner in order to
create the relationship that I want.”
So, just like before going to the grocery
store, we need to create a VISION for our
relationship ahead of time, so that in the busy
moments of the day, we are, in fact, acting
on the decisions that we made intentionally.
I’m blessed to serve thousands of people
every day, and at this point, there’s one thing
I know for sure…
You are creating the relationship
you are living in.
With every moment, every decision, every
word, every action, every experience
you participate in, you are creating your
relationship every day.
You are currently living in the relationship
you have created with your decisions and
actions from yesterday.
And tomorrow, you will be living in the
relationship you created with the decisions
and actions you make today.
If you are anything like most people, then
you have never thought about creating an
intentional relationship vision before, and you
are currently living in a relationship that you
have ended up in by default. I know you had
only positive intention for your relationship,
you didn’t do that on purpose, it’s just that no
one ever teaches us this stuff!
Well, life today is busy and complicated. And
your committed love relationship is the most
important relationship of your life and
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“YOU CAN’T HIT A
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CAN’T SEE.”