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health crises of someone I love dearly, a
house fire, and the death of a good friend,
to name just a few. Each time I’m tempted
to slip back into my old behavior patterns
of overdoing in response to stress, I remind
myself that, although every day is not going
to be filled with bliss bunnies and rainbows,
everything really is going to be okay. When
I find myself feeling overwhelmed with the
grief, sadness, or anxiety about what to do
next, I remind myself that I am fully supported
by the Universe. I find a quiet spot within me
to reconnect to the silence and the trust that
all will be well.
As human beings, much of our suffering
comes from not accepting reality and trying
to change the external circumstances of our
lives before we’ve extracted their internal
lessons. I spent much of my life and career
doing precisely that: trying to change and
outrun my childhood trauma. But, as I’ve
discovered, running from or ignoring what is
rarely results in anything productive. In fact, it
often means running in exactly the opposite
direction from what your true, essential
self actually wants, which is wholeness,
integration, forgiveness, and peace.
With my shift to a more spiritual life has come
a much greater focus on what is happening
internally. My reactions, my emotions, my
desires, my hopes and dreams, and my
connection to truth are so much more real
than my prior life of high achieving. I’m not
trying to say that we shouldn’t strive for
goals or set high standards. But if those
outer trajectories are not balanced by inner
wisdom, we will default to our habitual, ego-
based patterns. When this happens, we
cannot live authentically, or on purpose. We
will be passengers on the runaway train of
our false self.
All of the work that I’ve done on my own
personal development allows me to integrate
a deep belief and total trust into my life, and
to share it with others. I recognize that it took
me many years to come to this place and I
know that every human being can live with
the knowing of Basic Trust.
© 2018. Dr. Catherine Hayes, CPCC. Excerpt from
Everything is Going to be Okay: From the Projects to
Harvard to Freedom, Inspired Living Publishing.
Dr. Catherine Hayes, CPCC - Dr. Hayes is a dual-Certified Professional
Co-Active Coach; a Certified Riso-Hudson Enneagram Teacher and
International Enneagram Association (IEA) Certified Professional
and Accredited Teacher; a member of the Forbes Coaches Council;
a speaker; and a highly regarded influencer in the leadership field.
She holds a DMD from Tufts University and Masters and Doctoral
degrees in Epidemiology from Harvard University. She coaches
leaders to uncover the truth of who they are so they can live and
lead from their highest potential. Her bestselling book, Everything
Is Going to Be Okay! From the Projects to Harvard to Freedom is now
available.. Learn more at www.CatherineHayesCoaching.com and
while you’re there claim your free gift, 6 Life-Changing Reasons Why
Knowing Your Enneagram Type Matters.
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