Undoubtedly, you will have characters and experiences in your life that will definitely shape you and sometimes rock your world. But, you have control over the meaning you give everything in your life. It’s not the life event, the person or the circumstance that keeps you feeling stuck and unworthy, it’s the meaning that you give it. Alternatively, you can consciously make an effort every day to always be the star of your story. There is always a way to take the leading role back in your story. Life changes in a moment and you get to decide when that moment is! 3 ESSENTIAL FOUNDATIONS TO Becoming the Star of Your Own Story: ESSENTIAL FOUNDATION #1: Take Full Responsibi lity for Your Life Don’t blame other people for your circumstances or for something that has happened in your life. When you put the blame on someone else, you are giving them the lead role in your story. Essentially, this is what many people end up doing. When you don’t take responsibility for your life, it’s inevitable that you take on the supporting role. Blaming other people will keep you from being accountable for your situation. Consequently, this enables you to stay stuck in your situation or story and you don’t have to evolve or change. There are so many people that have experienced a bad divorce or break-up, obesity, addiction, depression, financial issues, etc. As a result, they always blame their issues on someone else. They have an excuse for their situation and they’ve made someone else the star of their story. EXAMPLES OF ALLOWING SOMEONE ELSE TO BE THE STAR OF YOUR STORY: • I’m in this situation because of my divorce or break-up. • My ex is responsible for my circumstances. • I’m overweight because my parents, spouse or significant other is also overweight. • I can’t lose weight because I’m big boned—it runs in my family. • I don’t have the financial success or career I want because I didn’t have the opportunity to go to college. • My parents didn’t have money, so I didn’t get the same privileges as successful people. • I have a problem with addiction because it runs in my family, so I will always be an addict. • Depression runs in my family, so I will always be depressed—It’s just how I was made. 49 Inevitably, so many people experience trauma, a breakup, a life-changing event or something that takes over in their life. As a result, the life event or the person that inflicted pain on them becomes the star of their story.