Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Oct/Nov 2018 Aspire Mag Full Issue | Page 49
Undoubtedly, you will have characters and
experiences in your life that will definitely
shape you and sometimes rock your world.
But, you have control over the meaning you
give everything in your life. It’s not the life
event, the person or the circumstance that
keeps you feeling stuck and unworthy, it’s
the meaning that you give it.
Alternatively, you can consciously make
an effort every day to always be the star of
your story. There is always a way to take the
leading role back in your story. Life changes
in a moment and you get to decide when
that moment is!
3 ESSENTIAL
FOUNDATIONS TO
Becoming the Star of
Your Own Story:
ESSENTIAL FOUNDATION #1:
Take Full Responsibi lity
for Your Life
Don’t blame other people for your
circumstances or for something that has
happened in your life. When you put the
blame on someone else, you are giving
them the lead role in your story.
Essentially, this is what many people end up
doing. When you don’t take responsibility for
your life, it’s inevitable that you take on the
supporting role. Blaming other people will
keep you from being accountable for your
situation. Consequently, this enables you to
stay stuck in your situation or story and you
don’t have to evolve or change.
There are so many people that have
experienced a bad divorce or
break-up,
obesity, addiction, depression, financial
issues, etc. As a result, they always blame
their issues on someone else. They have an
excuse for their situation and they’ve made
someone else the star of their story.
EXAMPLES OF ALLOWING
SOMEONE ELSE TO BE THE STAR
OF YOUR STORY:
• I’m in this situation because of my
divorce or break-up.
• My ex is responsible for my
circumstances.
• I’m overweight because my parents,
spouse or significant other is also
overweight.
• I can’t lose weight because I’m big
boned—it runs in my family.
• I don’t have the financial success or
career I want because I didn’t have the
opportunity to go to college.
• My parents didn’t have money, so I didn’t
get the same privileges as successful
people.
• I have a problem with addiction because
it runs in my family, so I will always be an
addict.
• Depression runs in my family, so I will always
be depressed—It’s just how I was made.
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Inevitably, so many people experience
trauma, a breakup, a life-changing event
or something that takes over in their life.
As a result, the life event or the person that
inflicted pain on them becomes the star of
their story.