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She said, “You were a heartbroken kid who hadn’t seen or heard from her mother for more than a year. Of course, you would go with her. Your assignment is to talk to your brother.” Our session over, I drove home. All the pain and suffering which I kept buried bubbled up. I felt angry at my parents. What kind of parents do that to a kid? Who kidnaps her children? Who doesn’t talk about the mistake or hug his kid to reassure her? A week later, I met my brother for lunch. We made small talk, enjoying the warmth and sunshine as we ate turkey and brie sandwiches. As our time together drew to a close, I said, “I have something I want to ask you. Something that has tortured me for years.” I looked directly at him. “Do you remember the day mom showed up at school?” He nodded, his eyes brimming with unshed tears. “Why didn’t you come with us?” I forced the words out, fearful of his answer. “I’m embarrassed.” He started crying. “Debby, I didn’t come because I didn’t want to leave my stuffed animals.” I sat there, stunned. “Your animals?” An image of him hugging Ginger, his floppy- eared calico dog, appeared in my mind’s eye. “All these years, I told myself that something was wrong with me for choosing toys over my mother.” He cried openly, wiping away tears with the back of his hand. “Oh my God,” I said. “All this time, I thought you were a better decision-maker, and there was something inherently flawed in me to have gone with her.” We grieved for the children who carried unnecessary guilt for so long. We exorcised our ghosts, cleaned our wounds, and vowed to ask more questions. That conversation was the start of my healing journey and a lesson in how the mind naturally creates stories in the absence of knowledge. The problem is that those stories are usually wrong and don’t serve us. In what ways have your stories held you back? You know you were born to make a difference in the world. You’ve done the work to heal old wounds and yet something (maybe more than one thing) keeps you from achieving all you know you can. Some of your beliefs—and stories—no longer serve you. Begin today to write a new ending to your story! Download my free eGuide entitled, “12 Signs Your Beliefs Are Weighing You Down.” Deborah Kevin - Deborah loves helping visionary entrepreneurs attract their ideal clients by tapping into and sharing their stories of healing and truth. She’s a member of the Association of Writing Professionals, Association of Ghostwriters, and the National Association of Memoir Writers and the Associate Editor for Inspired Living Publishing. Her passions include travel, cooking, hiking, and kayaking. Visit to learn more. Download her free eGuide entitled, “12 Signs Your Beliefs Are WeighingYou Down.” 39