Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Oct/Nov 2018 Aspire Mag Full Issue - Page 34

us stuck and make letting go such a challenging hurdle. A study by Hockenbury, conducted in 2007, highlighted the structure of an emotion and offers insight into the dynamics of our emotions. Each emotion is a complex psychological state that is comprised of three distinct components: 1. A subjective experience 2. A physiological response 3. A  behavioral or expressive response. Understanding these components is important, especially when it comes to changing any emotion and creating a new emotional definition and association. To flip an emotion requires effectively addressing each component. If one is missed, this interrupts the process of letting go and keeps us stuck in the same behavioral patterns, until we get the message. Our emotions are messengers and it is our individual responsibility to learn to understand them fully and then to change direction. 3 Question Everything Many of us become stuck when it comes to letting go, because we believe that our beliefs are true. And so to let go feels like 34 a deep loss of part of our truth. This can be softened however by looking at beliefs as habits and thoughts that we think often. And so, they become interchangeable choices that we can make in different contexts and circumstances, offering us a wonderful scope of expansion and flexibility, rather than rigidity and stagnation. A tool that I have found wonderfully empowering when it comes to letting go, is to question everything. Feeling stuck comes from a perspective of very little movement, no way out and lack of opportunity. When used correctly and responsibly, questions have the ability to open up the playing field. This is one of the reasons I consider using questioning as a superpower! Calibrated questions are an invitation to grow and be aware of different options and | October / November 2018