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us stuck and make letting go such a
challenging hurdle. A study by Hockenbury,
conducted in 2007, highlighted the structure
of an emotion and offers insight into the
dynamics of our emotions.
Each emotion is a
complex psychological
state that is comprised
of three distinct
components:
1. A subjective experience
2. A physiological response
3. A
 behavioral or expressive
response.
Understanding these components is
important, especially when it comes to
changing any emotion and creating a new
emotional definition and association.
To flip an emotion requires effectively
addressing each component. If one is
missed, this interrupts the process of letting
go and keeps us stuck in the same behavioral
patterns, until we get the message. Our
emotions are messengers and it is our
individual responsibility to learn to understand
them fully and then to change direction.
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Question Everything
Many of us become stuck when it comes
to letting go, because we believe that our
beliefs are true. And so to let go feels like
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a deep loss of part of our truth. This can be
softened however by looking at beliefs as
habits and thoughts that we think often. And
so, they become interchangeable choices
that we can make in different contexts and
circumstances, offering us a wonderful
scope of expansion and flexibility, rather
than rigidity and stagnation.
A tool that I have found wonderfully
empowering when it comes to letting go, is
to question everything. Feeling stuck comes
from a perspective of very little movement,
no way out and lack of opportunity. When
used correctly and responsibly, questions
have the ability to open up the playing field.
This is one of the reasons I consider using
questioning as a superpower!
Calibrated questions are an invitation to
grow and be aware of different options and
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