Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Oct/Nov 2018 Aspire Mag Full Issue - Page 33

1 The most important and perhaps hardest step in this process, in my experience, is to first acknowledge that we are feeling stuck and that our behaviors up until this moment, have given us the results we find. This is about taking ownership! When we do not accept responsibility for what is showing up in our life, in my experience, we are denying our divine nature and ability to co-creator with Life itself. This strips us of our personal power! Many of us are afraid to accept responsibility, because we have not been shown a healthy version of what this can look like nor how it works. There is a very strong element of blame and shame inherent in the collective consciousness, which is keeping us stuck in feelings of shame and guilt. These emotions keep many in a state of re-action and unable to let go. To stop this knee jerking, it’s going to take each of us to take ownership of what is going on in our lives and be honest about the way things are. It is what it is! Learn to be okay with things as they are, because until we do, we are simply resisting and creating more of the same old same. This can lead to feelings of frustration, disillusion, stress, lack of confidence, desperation or simply playing it safe, not wanting to rock the boat, not asking for bigger and better and to stop growing. Life is all about growth! It’s about expansion and when we are stuck it hurts and eventually 2 Flip the Emotion What makes a part of the human experience so wonderful I believe, is our ability to feel emotion plus the capacity to be aware of what it is we are experiencing. The reason many of us stay stuck however, is this very aspect. On the surface, emotions can seem straightforward. Humans, however, are extremely complex in their emotional makeup because there are layers and triggers of all kinds involved. From very young, we are indoctrinated about what each emotion means, we are taught when and how they are appropriate or not. The scenarios are set and we are expected to play along and our part. And for thousands of years, many did. Those that dared to step outside the scenario were silenced in numerous ways. These memories are still ingrained within the collective consciousness. Nevertheless, this is changing as more and more of us are speaking up and out. We are no longer accepting to live our lives according to someone else’s outline and definition. This requires taking ownership – remember in point 1 – of one’s emotional states and understanding them. In my own experience and from working with many clients to support them from pain to resolution, it is often the emotional connections and associations that keep 33 Taking Ownership we can experience disease. When we let go of our stuckness and take ownership of our choices, we can expand and respond. Ownership makes co-creation fun!