Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Jun/July 2019 Aspire Magazine FULL Issue | Page 69

give yourself the gift of experiencing our
entire 5-step process!
Whether you need to forgive yourself, your
partner, an ex, or anyone else in your life,
this process works! It’s time to wipe the
slate clean and start anew. You deserve this
freedom!!!
It’s time to understand what forgiveness
really is.
Whenever I tell my students that anything
can be forgiven, many are skeptical and
some are downright unwilling, “Stacey, I
can’t let that go – you have no idea what
they did to me!”
And I get it – some people have been through
really horrific, traumatic experiences. Please
understand I’m not making light of that at all!!
Very often, this resistance to forgive comes
from a misunderstanding of what forgiveness
really is.
The First Obstacle
to Forgiveness
“FORGIVENESS IS GIVING
UP THE HOPE THAT THE
PAST COULD HAVE BEEN
ANY DIFFERENT THAN IT
ACTUALLY WAS.”
Today, I’m going to share three key pieces
of that process with you so you can begin
to release any past hurts or betrayals, start
anew in your relationship, and create your
unshakeable love!
me in a whole new way! Today, I’m going to
pay that gift forward by sharing it with you.
The true definition of forgiveness is:
– OPRAH WINFREY
Too many people suffer because they
believe that forgiveness means saying what
the other person did to them is fine; as if
they’re saying, “Oh, yeah…that thing that
you did? It’s ok.”
That’s NOT what forgiveness is!
Forgiveness is simply giving up the HOPE
that the past could have been any different
than it was.
Many people obsess over thoughts like,
“They could have…. They should have…
If only they did
, …then they
wouldn’t have hurt me and I wouldn’t still
be suffering!”
The problem is, we cannot go back and
change the past.
What IS forgiveness? None of us can. We are powerless to change
what has already happened. It’s over
and done.
Years ago I was listening to Oprah talk about
forgiveness and she shared a definition
that blew me away!! It totally changed my
perspective on forgiveness and empowered We do not have a CHOICE to go back and
re-do what happened.
However, we DO have a CHOICE to release
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