Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Feb/March 2018 Aspire Mag Full Issue: Inner Prospe | Page 74

much stop having sex (or you go so long
that you are not sure how to re-start it).
When two people lose the PASSION energy
in their relationship, they begin to lead what
I call “parallel lives”.
You live under the same roof and you go
through the motions each day. You might
even be really good parents together and
good friends.
But here’s the challenge. TIME sets in.
Over time, when you are no longer sharing
sex with the ONE person you are allowed
to have sex with, upset and rejection starts
to set in. Over time, rejection builds to
resentment.
This is very dangerous for a relationship.
Resentment is like the “death rattle” of love.
The buildup of bad feelings damages your
relationship and will ultimately destroy it to
the point where you can’t even be friends.
This is why I say…You better start taking
your FUN more seriously, because your
relationship depends on it!
Don’t make the BIG mistake that most
people make in this situation…don’t focus
your efforts on trying to have SEX with your
partner to fix this. SEX is a big hurdle to start
with. It can feel insurmountable and it has a
lot of energy tied to it for both of you. (I’ll talk
about how to bring the sex back, increase
the frequency and improve the ecstasy in
my next column.)
Step #1:
Make it a priority!
Most people put being fun and playful at the
bottom of a list of things that they never get
to. If you want to bring more fun, playfulness
and flirting into your relationship, the first
step is for you to DECIDE that it’s valuable!
Don’t listen to that “drunk monkey” ego
voice in your head that tells you it’s stupid,
or that you are too busy for that or that you
won’t be taken seriously.
DECIDE. Right now, that you want to BE
fun, playful and flirty and that it’s a priority
for you.
Step #2:
Date Your Husband!
Then HOW do you bring the passion back?
Answer: Bring the fun, playfulness and
flirting back into your relationship! So, let me ask you… when was the last time
you went out on a date with your spouse?
Where to start? I’m talking about the kind where there was
lots of flirting, and energy, and fun, and tons
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