Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Feb/March 2018 Aspire Mag Full Issue: Inner Prospe | Page 73

– STACEY MARTINO
D
o you LONG for the playful, fun,
flirting and excitement that you used to have
in your relationship? “Stacey, you have NO idea how much I’m trying
to juggle,” students lament all of the time!
But I DO get it!
Sometimes it feels like life has become one
GIANT responsibility! I’m married, we’re raising 2 kids, we have a
very busy business to run, we’re managing
a household…trust me, we’re BUSY! And
that’s how I know that the BUSIER you are,
the more IMPORTANT it is to start taking
your fun more seriously! Your health, your
frame of mind, and the success of all of your
relationships depend on it!
Well, I’m here to tell you that you better
start taking your FUN more seriously…your
relationship depends on it!
Between the house, the kids, the business,
the jobs and everything else…somehow,
“having fun, flirting and being playful” flew
out the window (a long time ago).
We’re just going round and round on the
hamster wheel of life – making sure it all gets
done, and that everything and everyone is
taken care of. (Everything except ourselves
and our intimate relationship!)
We’re stuck in what I call, ‘over-responsibility’!
We lose the fun, playfulness, and the flirting
energy that characterized our relationship in
the past—when it was new and exciting, or
before we had kids.
A lot of well-intentioned, good, responsible
people get stuck in the perspective that
flirting is just silly, and they don’t have time
for that with everything they’ve got going on!
Here’s why…
Flirting and playfulness is the ENERGY
that creates the opportunity for SEX. Said
differently, when we stop being PLAYFUL
and flirtatious with our partner, it creates a
HURDLE that we have to OVERCOME later
to initiate sex.
Sex starts to feel like more of a CHORE.
Switching from “getting everything done”
energy to “let’s get it on” energy feels clunky,
forced and uncomfortable.
So, when the flirting and playfulness start to
fade, the frequency and enjoyment of sex
start to decrease, too.
Until it becomes like another to-do on your
list and just drops off your list, and you pretty
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DATING YOUR PARTNER IS NOT OPTIONAL IF
YOU WANT TO CREATE AN UNSHAKABLE LOVE
AND UNLEASHED PASSION!