Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Feb/Mar 2020 Aspire Magazine FULL Issue | Page 28

IT’S TIME TO TAKE
YOUR POWER BACK
THROUGH HEALING
YOUR FEELINGS OF
INSECURITY AND THE
UNHEALTHY PATTERNS
powerful. Unfortunately, this perpetuates
the other person’s helplessness. This is
apparent when one person tells the other
what to think, feel, or choose, and the other
person becomes co-dependent on them for
making any choices, eventually deferring to
others without knowing they themselves are
operating out of insecurity.
It’s time to take your power back through
healing your feelings of insecurity and the
unhealthy patterns that support it.
THAT SUPPORT IT.
Another unhealthy pattern that stems
from insecurity is needing to control. This
pattern often shows up as free-floating
anxiety. When you find yourself trying to
micromanage everyone and everything, you
are likely feeling insecure and out of control
on the inside. In fact, you engage in this
pattern as a coping mechanism to substitute
for internal security.
Unfortunately, this fear-based pattern only
generates an illusion of stability. It displaces an
absolute trust in ourselves and our connection
to a divine source onto external sources of
security such as who we are with, what we do,
where we live, or what we own. As a result, we
believe we are victims of our circumstances,
lacking the power to manifest the lives we
want. Most of us find it easier to hide behind
this self-destructive comfort zone and avoid
healing the insecurity that is at its core.
The pattern of care-taking also stems from a
need for internal security. For example, as a
caretaker, we may feel the need to dominate
another person to feel secure, stable, and
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HERE ARE 3 SACRED
STEPS TO RECOGNIZE
AND RELEASE YOUR
CODEPENDENT
PATTERNS:
N
 otice the people and
circumstances that push your
insecurity buttons: Observe what
triggers your physical or emotional
reactions. Grab your favorite journal
and pen, curl up, and prepare to have a
chat with your insecurity. It’s essential
to create a safe, quiet, and nurturing
space where you won’t be
uninterrupted. Write down in any
feelings of insecurity as they surface
and the reactions they trigger, even if
you are unaware of their source. The
stronger these reactions are, the more
deeply ingrained the patterns and the
more important it is for you to do the
inner work to heal these feelings.
Here are a few questions to kick start
your inner dialogue: Why did you come