Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Feb/Mar 2019 Aspire Magazine Full Issue | Page 67

That is still DEMAND RELATIONSHIP. Yes,
it is. Being nice and just letting everyone
walk all over you is just being the non-power
player in a demand relationship.
Happiness is an inside job. The sad truth
is, we blame our partners for not making
us happy, when we ourselves have not yet
learned how to make ourselves happy. It’s so deeply ingrained in our blueprints that
it is really common for people to first learn
about Relationship Development and think
that if they give up Demand Relationship,
then they will be the LOSER and the other
person will be the WINNER.
In Relationship Development, we learn the
skill set of how to show up in our relationships
with others in a way that builds up our
relationships with them and brings out the
best in them, instead of perpetuating what
we have always done, that doesn’t get good
results.
Make no mistake, Relationship Development
is NOT letting everyone else walk all over
you and just being NICE in return.
That’s not what Relationship Development
is. Far from it.
Here’s what I really want you to see now.
Demand Relationship is not LOVE. Those
words on the demand side of the chart,
that’s not love. And yet, how many times do
we show up from the demand side of the
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us. Instead of asking everyone to change in
order to get what we want to be happy, we
actually do the work to shift ourselves to get
to happy within.