Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Feb/Mar 2019 Aspire Magazine Full Issue | Page 24
When you bypass
your head, you become
open to receive spiritual
information through the
heart center to guide you
whether it’s a gut feeling,
an “a-ha” moment,
inkling, or an inner
knowing.
Repeat these affirmations as needed
throughout the day. Be gentle and loving with
yourself especially at the beginning when
you may not catch them immediately. Just
keep practicing o break the chain reaction of
self-sabotage.
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Forgive yourself and
release any shame.
Believing that you are flawed and unworthy
of love, belonging, or success comes from
your brain/ego and is a set up for self-
sabotaging behaviors. Negative beliefs such
as: “There is something wrong with you
and that you need to be fixed, can induce
feelings of shame.
Before you begin changing your self-
sabotaging behaviors, take inventory of
any aspects of your life where you feel
shame. Most likely, you will find that your
self-sabotaging behaviors are the result of
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unhealed feelings of shame. Pay attention
to what feelings come up in this safe space.
Accept yourself and your feelings with
loving-kindness as you would with someone
you love. Gently coach yourself by saying,
open and let go, or bless and release.
As your feelings surface, you may feel
restless, uncomfortable, and want to run
away or distract from them. That’s ok. Try to
remain here as long as you can surrendering
to the feelings you are having. Bringing
awareness to your thoughts and feelings
and what they may be signaling. Each
time come back to your breath, open your
heart, and release without judgment what
feelings came up for you. Everyday forgive
yourself and release any shame, guilt, or
disappointment in yourself with gentle, kinds
words and unconditional love.
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Shift to positive self-talk:
Your inner dialogue is your conversation
with the universe. It sets off a vibration for
attracting positivity or negativity into your
life. Observe how you speak to yourself and
whether it’s in a positive or negative manner.
By paying attention to your self-talk, you can
notice any negative thoughts or feelings and
how they trigger self-sabotaging behaviors.
A negative mindset sees the worst-case
scenario and is reactive to others or
situations whereas a positive mindset is
responsive and proactive.
Learn to differentiate the voice of your head
(negative/fear-based) from the voice of
your heart (positive/trust-based) by simply
noticing the words or scripts you use to
describe your everyday experience. It’s
important to notice if your voice is coming
from your head or heart.
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