Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Feb/Mar 2019 Aspire Magazine Full Issue | Page 24

When you bypass your head, you become open to receive spiritual information through the heart center to guide you whether it’s a gut feeling, an “a-ha” moment, inkling, or an inner knowing. Repeat these affirmations as needed throughout the day. Be gentle and loving with yourself especially at the beginning when you may not catch them immediately. Just keep practicing o break the chain reaction of self-sabotage. 3 Forgive yourself and release any shame. Believing that you are flawed and unworthy of love, belonging, or success comes from your brain/ego and is a set up for self- sabotaging behaviors. Negative beliefs such as: “There is something wrong with you and that you need to be fixed, can induce feelings of shame. Before you begin changing your self- sabotaging behaviors, take inventory of any aspects of your life where you feel shame. Most likely, you will find that your self-sabotaging behaviors are the result of 24 unhealed feelings of shame. Pay attention to what feelings come up in this safe space. Accept yourself and your feelings with loving-kindness as you would with someone you love. Gently coach yourself by saying, open and let go, or bless and release. As your feelings surface, you may feel restless, uncomfortable, and want to run away or distract from them. That’s ok. Try to remain here as long as you can surrendering to the feelings you are having. Bringing awareness to your thoughts and feelings and what they may be signaling. Each time come back to your breath, open your heart, and release without judgment what feelings came up for you. Everyday forgive yourself and release any shame, guilt, or disappointment in yourself with gentle, kinds words and unconditional love. 4 Shift to positive self-talk: Your inner dialogue is your conversation with the universe. It sets off a vibration for attracting positivity or negativity into your life. Observe how you speak to yourself and whether it’s in a positive or negative manner. By paying attention to your self-talk, you can notice any negative thoughts or feelings and how they trigger self-sabotaging behaviors. A negative mindset sees the worst-case scenario and is reactive to others or situations whereas a positive mindset is responsive and proactive. Learn to differentiate the voice of your head (negative/fear-based) from the voice of your heart (positive/trust-based) by simply noticing the words or scripts you use to describe your everyday experience. It’s important to notice if your voice is coming from your head or heart. www.AspireMAG.net | February / March 2019