Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Feb/Mar 2019 Aspire Magazine Full Issue | Page 23

Here are a 5 Sacred
Strategies to Shift from
Self-sabotage to
Self-Empowerment:
1
List the top five things
you are doing to sabotage
yourself.
Take out your journal and have a sacred
chat with yourself. Allow yourself to be
brutally honest as you list your top five self-
sabotaging behaviors. It’s uncomfortable
to be vulnerable especially when you may
feel shame or guilt. Take a deep dive here
and give yourself time to fully complete the
exercise. It will help you see that your self-
sabotaging behaviors are just trying to show
you the underlying emotional wounds that
are not fully healed. Go for broke, no one
else is going to see what you’ve written.
After you complete this exercise, identify the
behaviors that are opposite of what you have
been doing. What are healthy behaviors you
can do to replace the behavior patterns that
undermine your success? For example, if you
find yourself wanting cake in the afternoon,
can you counter it by having a banana first?
Do you routinely spend more than you
save? You can change this unhealthy habit
by putting five percent of what you earn in a
savings account each week.
Finally, next to each soul-supporting
behavior make a list of five new action steps,
practices, or tasks, and choose one that you
can accomplish today. And then do it with
great love.
2
Rescript your self-
sabotaging beliefs to self-
empowering affirmations:
Drop into your heart center by laying your
hand on your chest and quieting the mind.
By tuning into your heart center, you come
into a loving space of awareness, self-
compassion, and mindfulness. When you
feel ready, write down your predominant
self-sabotaging beliefs in your journal or
notebook. Then, next to each script write an
empowering affirmation. For example: If one
of your self-sabotaging scripts is: “I never
have enough money.” Rewrite the script into
an empowering affirmation such as: “I am
connected to the unlimited abundance of
the universe.”
As you move through your day, notice any
negative, self-sabotaging, scripts without
judgment. Just let them move through your
mind like clouds across the sky. As you
notice them, begin to replace them with life-
affirming, empowering affirmations such as:
“This _________(self-sabotaging behavior) is
bringing an unhealed part of me into awareness.
I choose __________(life affirming behavior)
that supports my well-being.”
23
Not so fast! Just because New Year’s Day
has come and gone doesn’t mean you get to
call it quits and go back to making the choices
that no longer serve you and your soul’s
path. You are not alone in self-sabotaging
your “good intentions.” It’s not easy to
change unhealthy habits and behaviors that
compromise your health, well-being, and the
soulful life you want to co-create for yourself.