70 www . AspireMAG . net | February / March 2017
The painful emotions are difficult , and you may want to avoid them or push them aside . Doing so will not make them go away . They will return in some form or another until they are worked through . Find a pace that you can manage . Face them as you can . Release them through tears , words , and movement .
Even when life is darkest , we must keep our eyes on the light . What we pay attention to expands , so as you can , turn your attention to the positive .
Sort out Have-To vs . Should .
When life is in crisis , there are certain tasks that still have to be attended to . Delegate what you can . Run what is left through the filter of ‘ Have-To ’ vs . ‘ Should .’ Yes , maybe I should get my newsletter out as scheduled . Maybe I should finish that work project – it wouldn ’ t take that long . I really should go to my niece ’ s dance recital or championship sporting event .
‘ Shoulds ’ add unnecessary pressure at a time when stress is high enough . It is important to manage your energy so that you have what you need to accomplish the tasks that must be done . Do what you have to and let go of the rest . People will understand . You don ’ t always have to be capable , attentive , and on-task .
Practice Ultimate Self- Care .
Take care of yourself as best you can – physically , mentally , and emotionally . While you may not feel hungry , you still need to eat healthy , nourishing foods . Sleep may be elusive , yet your body needs rest . Do what you can to manage your run-away mind . Talk with friends . Look for diversions and creative outlets . Stay grounded . Spend time outdoors .
As best as you are able , ask for what you need , whether it be companionship , space to be alone for a while , or help with a project that is overwhelming . Think about how you would treat a friend going through a similar experience , and treat yourself with that level of compassion .
Find Space for Silence
When your inner world is in turmoil , it is reflected in your outer world . Busywork keeps your mind too active for your heart to feel . That ’ s an easy escape for a while , but it is illusionary . Create a quiet space in your
70 www . AspireMAG . net | February / March 2017