Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Dec19/Jan20 Aspire Mag FINAL | Page 70

You can make the
CHOICE to change
the course of your
relationship.
You Don’t Have to Accept It
If that’s where you’re at, I want you to know
that you are not alone! There’s an epidemic
of passionless relationships right now. This
situation is all too common.
Everywhere around you are disconnected
partners, partners who have lost their
playfulness and passion.
slowly, the frog will cook to death eventually.
But if you toss a frog in a pot of boiling water,
it will just hop out.
Why doesn’t the frog hop out in the first
scenario? Because it doesn’t see it coming!
That’s how a passionless relationship turns into
a “hanging by a thread” relationship. The heat
was turned up slowly and nobody saw it coming.
In relationships, when something happens
and we don’t have the tools to deal with it,
we start to build a wall. Every kerfuffle that
you don’t address puts down another cinder
block on the wall.
We disagreed about parenting and we didn’t
resolve it. Cinder block.
My partner spent money without talking to
me. Cinder block.
I made an advance to my partner and it
wasn’t received. Cinder block.
So when it happens to you, you tell yourself: This happens year after year. So, you put
your focus on other parts of your life...then
one day you wake up and realize you’ve built
an entire wall!
● This is just the way long-term relationships are.
● Passion fades over time.
● We’re just out of the honeymoon phase. Now you’re encased in it and you feel like
you can’t connect with your partner anymore.
It feels impossible to break through.
STOP! Don’t buy into that crap! Look around
you. Marriages and families are breaking
apart in record numbers. DO NOT allow
your salad to turn to garbage. It’s time to turn
things around! ● I just picked the wrong person.
You start to tell yourself
things like:
How Did You Get Here? ● If we loved each other enough it would
work itself out.
There’s an old expression: if you put a frog
in a pot of water and you turn the heat up ● It’s just that I’m not good enough.
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● If it was meant to be, it would be easier.
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